"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey guys!I wana ask you for advise.
Theris a girl i like and i think she is interested in me.But im not sure about that and i want to find out is she likes me...Oh yeah theris one problem...She dosent speak english...What should i do?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If she ever was interested in you, then you probably blew it by now. Read one of the bibles (they're stuck at the top of the HS forum) and then come ask your questions.
 

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I dont think i blew it...Cause she is new in my school...Its ben about a week we met...So i read the "bible"...Should i ask her out or make sure that she likes me?
 

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Why do you want to make sure she likes you? There is no absolute way to find that out without asking her out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Uh... so she doesn't know any English.

Unless you can learn Spanish VERY QUICKLY, I don't think that she'd want to go out on a date with a guy who can't even communicate with her. It'd probably scare her because she doesn't understand what you're saying.

Is this girl just plain hot and you don't know anything about her? I dunno, I can just picture some suave guy who knows Spanish helping her out and taking her away.

Tricky stuff for you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Well...She know very-very little english...But you right...If she cant communicate with me it wont be any fun...
 
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