need help

[newbeginning]

i like this girl for over 3 years already. im not sure why. Perhaps it is because nobody ever got her before and i like the challenge. She gets hit on everywhere we go so she always have that defense mechanism armed. hehe.
Three years ago when we were just teenagers, i told her how i feel towards her. She turned me down. then just recently after a year of breaking up with my ex, i told her again how i feel. She was just as cold as the first time.
Now, i heard from friends that she did have interest in me when we first met. and i suppose i screwed that up by being such an afc. You know, really shy, didnt know how to play the game. I heard that once a girl doesnt like you in that way, it's next to impossible to get her interest level up. true?
I know i can go read the "bible" and figure out what to do, but i need your inputs as to what i should do to tame this beast. My questions is how do i break her defense??

Any input is appreciated. thanks again.

 

[b's nuts]

brutha, sounds like a lost cause to me, move on. NEXT!

 

[chlywly]

NEXT is the thing to do.

 

[newbeginning]

is there anyway to get her...i wont be satisfied until i do.

 

[Tkman]

ok

 

[am4591]

Your best bet, if this is still salvageable, is to back off for now. Still talk to her but don't let her know you're still interested. Stay detached. And start dating other girls. Maybe she'll come around, maybe she won't but you're not helping your cause any by telling her how you feel about her.

 

[Walden]

Originally posted by am4591
Your best bet, if this is still salvageable, is to back off for now. Still talk to her but don't let her know you're still interested. Stay detached. And start dating other girls. Maybe she'll come around, maybe she won't but you're not helping your cause any by telling her how you feel about her.

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[Big Pappy]

Newbeginning --

A wise man once said, "a bad beginning makes for a bad ending."

...i wont be satisfied until i do.

Just my opinion, but it reeks of desperation. To my way of thinking, when you've found a girl who has a certain undesired opinion of you, you need to take a step back and give time a chance to change you and/or her. In this case, both!

Never ask a friend, or trust your buddies when it comes to your love life. Meaning well, they can screw things up for you pretty quickly. They can also hook you up, but you need to fend for yourself. Learn to fish!


I tell my shy friends that beautiful women have told me that they are interested in them just to see if they will get off their butts and move. (they rarely do)

So, take a long step away from her. Try to date a casual acquaintance of hers. If you can show her some fun, then she will tell her friends about you. Thus, the adage : "The more you get, the more you get; the less you get, the less you get".

 

[newbeginning]

I am happy to announce that i have next to no feelings for this girl and moving on. She asked me to go to a social event together so i accepted her invitation. When we got there, she avoided me the whole time like i was chasing after her, i was like WTF "you were the one who invited me" and now youre ditching me? of course i didnt say that straight to her face, but i was evidently pissed. Some of my friends even caught her rolling her eyes at me and giving me a disgusted face. I shouldve said no and hung out with my true friends in the first place, how stupid I was. But all was well after a few beer. I still dont understand why she would act this way even though i didnt show any kind of interest. and quite frankly, if a girl acts all *****y and conceited like this, i wouldnt wanna bother. Thanks for your inputs guys

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

never never never tell a girl how u feel about her - let her initiate -of couse she dissed u - u been telling her how u feel for a few years - HUH?
she was pulling your chain and made a grand gesture of disrespect in front of your friends and in public...do u know this was pre-meditated, calculated, planned, and plotted...yes it was...call the ho up and tell her u didnt appreciate such antics especially in public and that her motives for inviting u were fraudlent and that she shouldsome common courtesy when she is with someone in public - but of course hos dont know what respect is because the first quality of a ho is self-disrespect - tell her this and hang-up - dont say anything else - NEXT!

she ditch u to show her and your friends how much of a chump u r - this could seriously hamper your future prospects if the word gets around - u r still young u have time to get your rep back if not in your current town then maybe a few counties down

Say no to hos!

 

[newbeginning]

haha funny input bro, well she called back today and left a message to apologize. i didnt bother to call back, dont think i wannna afiliate myself with that kindda people anyhow. But sad though, i really adored her. But this is what i get for being a nice guy. Fallen about 3 times already and never learnt, hopefully this is the final straw, i have nothing to say to her from now on. BTW what the hell does AFC stand for anyways.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

AFC= Another Frustrated Chump= YOU!!


Bro you'll NEVER get this girl with your current mind set!! I was happy to read that you were over her but that was written outta anger!! When she calls you and asks you to hang out tell her you already have plans. Be cordial to her, but distance yourself from her slowly. Your her byatch friend right now, she looks at you like a girl, not an Alpha Male.

The only possible way you could MAYBE eventually get her is if you spent a lot of time apart. I'm talking like 6 months to a year away. If you've learned how the game works by then, then you could approach her as a totally different person with a new perspective.


PIMP

 

[newbeginning]

pimp sicle, what you said is sad but true,

this girl wants perfection, she seriously wants a movie star (no joke). Nobody ever succeeded to even take her out on a date. I stand watching countless losers falling one by one as they approached her. But i finally pulled my head outta my ass and realize my self-worth. All thanks to this site for giving me a whole new perspective.

Im still pondering, there are so many guys she knows out there, why did she pick me to go with her then dis me like that. oh well, all i can say now is fvck it.

im out, later