"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sand

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How is it going?
well, i'm not sure how to handle a situation and i need some advice please.
here is what happened:
i met this girl at school and after a while we went on a couple of dates. it didnt really work out cuz she would text and even answer her phone on our dates. plus she also gave me the, "i see as a best friend" line. after that we didnt really talk or text for about over a month.
out of no where she sent me a txt and we started talking again. she has called me out on not inviting her hang out when i go out.
she told me twice she wants to talk to me and that it is very important. the first time she flaked and now we are to meet sometime next week.
what i think is that she is only using me when she is bored (because she only texts me when she is at home doing nothing) and i'm sick of it.
i also believe she is going to call me out again on not inviting her to go out.
if that is the case, what is the best way to handle the situation? should i also call her out on her only using me when she is bored??
any advice is welcomed!
thanks
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Kevin Feng

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I think you answered your own question, she's probably just using you and she's already put you in the friend zone, no need to get butt hurt about it or waste too much emotion, just move on and go for the next girl.

I hate girls like that at times, but whatever, that makes me a hypocrite because I can't say that I haven't done the same to girls.

You'll find that when you start getting good at this, you'll be in on the other side doing this to girls that you're not really into, so don't take it personally

all is fair in love and war.
 

Sand

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yeah, i figured i was in the friends zone early on, so it really tripped me out when she accepted to go on the couple dates we went on.
thanks for the advice!!!!
 
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