"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I met this gal about a month ago... She sent me a text MSG and we chat via text for abit. The next couple of days, I bust her ballsand it was all good till this weekend, I asked her out and she agreed. We set a date of Wednesday afternoon. Just called her to confirm. I gotta couple of problems:

1. She suggested alternative women I could ask out.... Don't know whether she was **** testing or she was serious. I would respond by saying yeah we could all get together 3sme. Lol

2. She would never initiate..... But would either call me back and we would chat for abit.

3. I asked her if we were still up for tomorrow and she flakes out saying that she's gotta go see one of her clients. She suggested I go to her office on Friday and see how it goes from there.



What do u guys think?? What's happening here?? I am thinking I should just not show up on Friday and call ....NEXT

any help is much obliged
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It doesn't look like she is that interested. Maybe theres other things on her mind.


Don't be too pushy and don't expect anything to happen either. Take it day by day and when you go on the date make her very interested.


There isn't many details in your post so its hard to form an accurate picture.
 

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ThAnx..... Just wondering what you guys thought of the flakiness. I'm sure she is interested but was just curious as to whether other guys have had similar experiences as the gal " suggests" another gal for ya.

Also, due to the flakiness, I was thinking of not going to see her and not calling her either. Any ideas?
 

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Oh I forgot to mention, the first week we started chatting, she got into this role playing thing where she made me her " assistant" where I was supposed to drive her to work, get her breakfast etc. Just as a joke and the next day she would bit h jokingly that I never showed up. So one day, just to shut her up, I took her breakfast. She didn't expect it obviously. Can't tell what look she gave me.....whether it was wow Im chuffed or get away from me creep show!!

But we chatted after that.

Again still confused whether I should move on or suould I give her a chance again on Friday
 

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Mr Confusion Himself said:
So one day, just to shut her up, I took her breakfast. She didn't expect it obviously. Can't tell what look she gave me.....whether it was wow Im chuffed or get away from me creep show!!
And this is where it ended.

While you're out, I would like a bacon egg and cheese croissant from dunkin. And a large coffee, cream no sugar.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The problem is not that she's suggesting other women, it's that you're analyzing too much and doing too little. Have you made a move? Escalated at all? That's the only way to know if she is truly interested.

Suggesting other girls? So what? Girls have done that to me before and I've ****ed them anyway. Like most things girls do, it doesn't mean anything.

And the fact of the matter is that this girl is keeping in contact with you. Since you made no mention of meeting her in a work/school/friend-related environment, I will assume that you met her randomly. If this is the case, she IS DEFINITELY interested in you. Look at the big picture, not the other crap. And make a move already!

Cheers!

- JK
 

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Thanks for ur help....we did eventually go out for dinner....it was good....

Suggested "hooking" me up with other gals.....i think that might have been a **** test she might have picked up on one of those chick websites...dunno
 
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