Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I met this girl at my school ,she talks to me with this exitement, before we went on spirng break ont he last day of class she gave me her number and invited me to go to a show with her ,I went to the show and it sold out.
I called her and told her the show got sold out and she felt bad i couldnt go. so now we are back at school tuesday was the first day of school and i saw her when i saw her i gave her a hug and asked well how was your spring break i had not talked her for a week. so later on that day she invited me and my friend to go to a fridays were she works as a waitress and all of a sudden these dudes that work with her started coming left and right ....one of them ended up sitting down during the whole time we were eating .. I ended up making conversation with the guy he was drinking beer and were all under 21. so we go back to class and go on our 20 minute break ,I went out get a drink of water and she stopps me and grabs my hand says ill be right back then we lets go she scratched my hand on purpuse and said am sry did i hurt in a sexy voice

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i just need some advice on this chick? i dont know if she likes or am i trapped in the friendszone?

and have gotten advice from different sources and but this girl confuses the hell out of me
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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she flirts with me and always want me to keep her company during breaks at school and when we have to study for a class asignment. but somehow when other people that she knows are around her an am there she pretends like am not there and starts saying stuff to make me look bad then when the people leeave she turns into nice flirty girl
 
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Youngblood, if you never ask you will never know!! You are asking the wrong persons - ask her!
 

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i just need some advice on this chick? i dont know if she likes or am i trapped in the friendszone?
Ah it sounds like your in the friend zone, or at least heading that way. Next time you are alone with her, kiss her then walk off.

She how she responds next time she sees you.

I know this sounds stupid - but your in school so use this as a learning experience.
 

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decadentdestruction said:
she flirts with me and always want me to keep her company during breaks at school and when we have to study for a class asignment. but somehow when other people that she knows are around her an am there she pretends like am not there and starts saying stuff to make me look bad then when the people leeave she turns into nice flirty girl
Classic friend zone. This is about as basic and classic as it gets when it comes to a friend zone.

She had the nerve to invite you to the restaraunt while you were working and then she didn't even talk to you? LOL man, this was probably a **** test, but that's the way she treats her "friends". YOU SHOULD BE ANGRY ABOUT THIS. You shouldn't be confused or wondering what you did wrong, you should be angry about it.

But, you never should have even WENT to the restaraunt while she was working. You should've been like "What? Go there to watch you work? No thanks. See ya around." and walked away.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She clearly wants you to keep giving her attention while she flirts with the other guys. Fairly common behavior for attention-whres. Not only are you in friend-zone, you never really had a chance in the first place.

Cut your losses and find something else to do with your time. Approach other girls, get a hobby or two, whatever it takes. If she's going to disrespect you like that, she doesn't deserve your attention. If she calls, ignore her. If she wants to talk, tell her you're not interested in talking to her and blow her off.

She will probably try to get you to tell her why you're ignoring her. Don't bother explaining yourself: it's a trap. No matter what you say, you've just started qualifying yourself to her. The implication is that you need to explain anything to her. You don't. Just cut her out of your life and move on. You'll almost definitely lose her as a friend, but if you value and respect yourself, you need to do it.
 

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Full Throttle said:
You need to make a move dude. NOW.
At this point it's too late. I can almost garauntee that if he makes a move now, she's going to give him the "Oh, I like you and all, but I just want to be friends. i know that's selfish of me,a nd if you don't want to be friends I'll understand, but I like you as a friend." speech.

I'd just cut to the chase and cut her out of my life completely. When she asked why...hell I wouldn't give her a CHANCE to ask why.
 
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yeah thanks for the advice , classic friendzone, I should of have seen it coming
i have been coming to this site since o4 and the advice this place offers is really good, i have read tons of posts and it has helped me overcome shyness and approaching women , you know its crazy that this happend with this girl i have never thought i would end up in a place like the friendzone with her.

but yeah now that i think about she is kinda like an attention wh0re .

but yeah i have hobies and I play guitar in a band, so yeah am gonna start hitting on more girls , but i'm just waiting for new faces at the school. if u know what i mean..:D

thanks for the advice guys .
 
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