Need Help!

[theapprentice]

Alright guys I'll keep this short and simple. I have a few problems at hand and I cant seem to figure them out. I am 20 years old btw.

1. Whenever I go into a social setting, harbors, clubs, bars and etc... I start to feel really bad looking around and seeing all the couples walking and watching the pretty girls walk by and not even give me a second look. I hate having to go to a place and seeing kids my age enjoying themselves while I feel left out since I have nobody to go with no guys or girl friends only family. What can I do?

2. I get really nervous/on edge and paranoid in large crowds and where there are kids my age, especially girls. I get so nervous that my mind stops working sharply, and I get this flight or fight feeling. I also feel like I am about to be attacked by something at any moment and I jump at the slightest noise. Why? and What can I do to fix it?

3. I have trouble making new friends, I dont like to take risks and start a conversation or make the first move, and I always have regret afterwards when my chance is gone, but when I see an oppurtunity I forget everything and I become a nervous reck. What can I do to make taking more risks easier so I dont have to keep psyching myself up?

I am starting to feel depressed over my social life and love life, I mean everyhting I am doing isnt yielding me any results. Even reading all the bibble posts, I mean there is only so much emotion you can control.

 

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Go see a doctor. The DJ bible isn't a for dealing with social phobia.

 

[Ace of Flames]

1. Don't let that bother you. Instead, let it motivate you. Trust me, it works.

2. Just relax. No one is gonna kill you. Maybe you have that phobia of public places, or of large crouds of people. Maybe you're claustrophobic. Who knows? But as always, the best way to break any fear is to become exposed to it. Afraid of approaching? You just need to do it until you realize that its not so bad. Afraid of rejection? Get a bunch of rejections under your belt, and you'll realize its not so bad. Afraid of large crowds? Just go chill in as many large crowds as you can, and you'll realize its not so bad. See a pattern here?

3. All I can say on this one is, Just Do It. Really. That's it. You say you regret not taking the risks. Well, FYI: That's the worst feeling you're gonna feel when it comes to making friends and getting girls. Regret is always worse than rejection. You'll regret not doing something forever. You'll just feel bad about getting rejected until you talk to the next girl. See the difference?

Don't let it get you down man. You can fix it. You can't get better just by reading the bible. You have to apply it to your life. Remember, its not just a bunch of techniques and mindsets that you can turn on when a hot girl walks by. Its a life change.