Need help yall

[somedude101]

Hey yall,

This is my first post, I really hope that yall can help me. I'm turned 17 a few weeks ago and am about to start my senior year of high school in a couple of days. This is my last year of high school and i feel like a complete loser right now. I have a few friends (I really only talk to four or five people outside of school) but i've never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl yet. Everytime a cute girl even looks my way I freeze up. I can't even imagine asking a girl for her pone number right now. I even tried to join sports teams to boost my confidence, that only marginally worked. As a member of the football team I still got no attention even by my own teammates. That was probaly becouse my heart wasn't in it, i really don't like to play that much. When i joined the wrestling team I started to get some attention, becouse our team is really difficult to become a part of. Anyway, My problem ( i think) is that I have no confidence. I can't talk to girls or even stand up for myself. I'm 6'0 220lbs and I'm scared to fight ( this lets you know how well i did during wrestling season for the past two years). I hate confrontation and am sooo scared of being rejected (especially in public). I've gotten so depressed before that I scared myself about what I might do. I didn't even make good grades my first three years becouse I was so depressed, and I'm being told that I'm intelligent. I can make up my grades but it's the other stuff that's get's me down. I have no idea how I'm going to survive senior year! I can't even play football next year (not that I really wanted too), becouse I have to get a job to help my mom out ( I haven't even been doing good with this so far). I'm going to stop rambling and complaing now, but please help me out here anyway you can.

I will appreciate any advice that any of you could offer.

 

[cA^]

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

Read the articles contained in that, best advice any of us can give you.

Hope things start going your way soon matey

 

[MrS]

The Bible, top right, best guide.

 

[gravstar]

Mate you need to phsyc yourself up. Find stuff that your good at, do it, a lot. Then find things that you like about yourself and them emphasize them.

Crank up the confidence.

 

[somedude101]

Thanks for your help yall.

I just started reading the articles from the link that you posted, It should help. I have already started to think about what my first step should be, I need too becouse I start school again in two days. Anyway, I checked out this article on the main site, sosuave.com last night, It was under the Louis & Copeland section I belive. The article said that once the writer had sent his friend who was having trouble talking to girls on an assignment to only smile and say hello to as many females as possible for a week and then report back. His friend did as he was told, and had amazing success. I read this and was surprised at how something so simple as smiling and saying hi could give this man so much confindence. I am going to do this for one week, Smile and say hello to as many girls as possible, and then I am going to report my progression and next step on this site.
Do any of yall think that this will help?

 

[somedude101]

Hey i know i just posted but i have to tell yall that I just started reading the DJ boot camp and am going to follow it. Did any of you do it? If you did, did it help at all. From what I read so far I don't see how it can't.
If I go all the way with this boot camp do I post my progresion on this fourum or one of the other ones?

 

[dannowillbookem]

Originally posted by gravstar
Mate you need to phsyc yourself up. Find stuff that your good at, do it, a lot. Then find things that you like about yourself and them emphasize them.

Crank up the confidence.

just dont crank it up too far.

u might end up an ******* like me lol

 

[dannowillbookem]

Originally posted by somedude101
If I go all the way with this boot camp do I post my progresion on this fourum or one of the other ones?

just make "The Somedude101 Bootcamp Thread"

and post results there.

make sure u stay with it. i tried but got lazy hopefully i'll gather the energy to start again.