"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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-> Need help with this party-girl HB8

Target_100

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I met her at a club and we danced and made out. I didn't have much social proof at that place because the ppl I was with were pretty drunk and didn't have any status, but I was ****y and confident and she gladly gave me her #.

Next day I text her and say "I'm going on (some event with some friends), you should join!".

I think that text was ok. A call would have been better of course to re-ignite the attraction. She answers fast but has plans. So I reply "ok" and left it at that.

Now what the cr@pp do I do next? I'm thinking about calling her and not asking for a date. Just a quick call as if I was just bored and needed to waste some time talking to her. I'll do this when I feel confident and relaxed and try to tell some short DHV stories.

I don't wanna risk asking for another date in case she has plans.

This girl goes out 2-3 times a week and partys a lot. She broke up with her ex because he cheated on her. Shes the better looking by far in her group of 4-5 girls.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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well, you still need to work on building genuine confidence. but fornow, ask her out with a specific time and place. you need to gauge her interest and see if she's worth your time. call her over the phone and make specific plans. if she gives you excuses say "oh, that's ok maybe some other time" if she doesn't follow that up with a specific alternative (date, time, and place) then it's safe to assume she has low interest. accept that and keep spinning other plates and working on bettering yourself. if you later get an urge you MAY want to ask her out again (persistance) but don't expect anything.
 

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Dont know brother , i think making out with her its not a big deal for her . And should not be a big deal for you .

Dont call her that way , telling you're bored and sh1t . This tells her that you have nobody else to waste your time with . And you dont have time to waste , you're DJ , remember ?

I really dont know , i would wait for her to initiate contact , but thats me.
 

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Ok thanks all.

1. I wont tell her Im bored. I'll just say I'm at work etc etc and talk for a few minutes.

2. Its not a big deal for me anymore. But she was hot and I'd lige to bang her, so I'll putt all my efforts on doing that :)

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Ok I just called her :)

I was nervous before I called but i managed to get my confidence up a lot as we started talking. I distracted myself slightly from the call doing other stuff at work. It worked great. I was very laid back and didn't set up a date. I just said jokingly "You know we're going on a very romantic date later?" Then I said "Well not tomorrow or the day after, but when I get the time". She said that would be great. We talked a bit and then I hung up.


She always tries to impress me it seems, and I take this as an IOI. Actually I lost a bit of my interest in her because of this, which is great.

Now I don't know what to do next. I guess I won't be hearing from her, and that I'll call her or, god forbid, text her on wednesday to try and meet up.


Any advice?


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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I won't give up until shes in my signature buawahaha!

:D :D :D
 
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