Need help with street approaches again

[rushing dude 123]

I need help with direct approaches again, recently i have been getting a few numbers, but these were at the bar i work at and the other people there r so far above me it is unbelievable. Now i know my charm and wit is very good, i can say that is better than most people i encounter, but i lack in direct game and closing, which is what the others have and at the end of the day they will get the most numbers. I remember in clubs freezing and i do not speack to any girls at all and just sit with all my friends all night. there is only one way i can conquer this:

1. do 100 approaches in one day
2. get 10 rejections in a week

if i can do this the only thing holding my game would b gone, which is FEAR. Guys ur help would b very much appreciated on this one. Any advice or tips u can giv me would b good. I am wondering how to do these approaches seeing that i would struggle with doing 4 a day at one point, but i know i can do 100. I just need some material to go out there with i was thinking maybe something like "hey could i talk to u for a second?" if she says yes, then ill continue and say "i just noticed u and wanted to meet u, my name is rushing dude and u r?", then if i notice anything unique about her i will comment on it or maybe ask her where shes going or what she does for fun. I have honestly gotten so scared to do this though, but i will do it.

The last time i asked for help on street approaches is underneath, but i feel i need to improve on this stage because it was successful the first 2 times but the last 10 times i did it, it was not.


http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=131520

 

[Microphone Fiend]

im in a similar situation with my street approaches. THe only thing I can tell you is what I am telling myself... "just get the first few out the way and you are set"

Good luck man and remember its just a game. Have fun even in rejection!

 

[Nelford]

What exactly is the problem. Is it fear of rejection? You are no stranger to the word NO.

hey could i talk to u for a second?" if she says yes, then ill continue and say "i just noticed u and wanted to meet u, my name is rushing dude and u r?"

Above, what you just said is all you need to start it off and then you put a little spin on it depending where you are at or doing. I say the most basic things when I am approaching a girl. Time is money!

I remember, there was this girl that work at the credit union and this fruit basket was bananas! I walk straight up to the front and introduce myself and ask what her name was. After that I said "look there is some people behind me waiting so I will be straight" and I ask her for her number. She paused, smiled and gave me every number to contact her plus her email. I called her a week later and she was all over me.

All she can say is no, I got a boyfriend, not interested etc.. Let me ask you a question, are you interested in every girl you see. That girl that turn you down may have some serious problems.

 

[Mr.Positive]

I don't know if this helps, or has been mentioned before..but I've found, that with street approaches, I find a reason to initiate. Something as simple as finding out what time it is.

When you have a reason, it's makes the approach a lot easier.

Then, by her response, body language, I can tell a bit more about her, if she's receptive to me. If I get a bad response, I'll eject, or end the convo so as to not waste time.

Makes it not so much as an approach, but more of a fact gathering investigation.

 

[Entropy4]

This is what I'm talking about -- way to push yourself rushing. 100 approaches in a day is definitely doable. And if you do 100 approaches in one day, I'm sure at least 10 of those will be rejections, they're just inevitable.

1. The first thing is that you set the bar high. A lot of guys go out demanding 5 sets out of themselves, do 2 and then go home. If you demand 100 out of yourself, you'll likely push yourself much further than most guys.
2. I would say just go direct and focus more on the conversation after you open. The first thing you say isn't nearly as important as the second thing you say.
3. The first few will require some effort to get over the AA, but you're going to run into problems much later. Cold approaching and running sets can be exhausting, especially if you do it straight for 4-5+ hours. I usually burn out around 25 sets in a row and just can't take anymore. My guess is pushing yourself to do sets 30-100 will MUCH harder than making yourself do 1-29.
4. Don't have any expectations. You may get 50 numbers, you may get 5. Don't get held up on your results. Focus on your game. Focus on how you're opening. Focus on creating good conversation. Focus on getting her to feel comfortable with you and to laugh.

Good luck man. Look forward to hearing back from you.

 

[rushing dude 123]

guys i attempted it today, i only got 6 and gave up. 2 rejections and 1 number, with one of the rejections being "r u ****ing mad" lmfao. i finally realised the perfect response to that anyway. i am going to do a bit more approaches when i am on the street to weaken my aa a bit more. Till i get another day off and i will attempt it again.

 

[rushing dude 123]

attempt two guys. its 3 am now and i got to go school early to help in libary for 1 hour and get a hair cut and go swimming. but apart from that i have a 24 hour day again and i am going to go sarging with a friend tonight. I won't get sleep for 2 days dam.......

 

[Wodan]

get some sleep or it will spoil your looks, and you will make more conversational mistakes, really good to hear people approaching on the street though, ive been going out withought a lighter lately and only asking for a light off hot girls with a cigarette haha, one way of forcing myself to start up convo

 

[rushing dude 123]

ok attempt 2 i got 35 sets and i learned a lot from that night, i could of probablly done more but i afc'd at 12am and wudn't make an effort and when i did, i just really didn't care and expected them to fall in my lap.
This is not 100, but its a hell lot better than 6.....

Thread of some of the approaches done is on the link below

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=143832

 

[rushing dude 123]

i am going out tuesday for my third attempt, guys i am feeling a hell lot closer to my goal from my last attempt, i definetly broke some barriers. i will try to update this on wed.

 

[xdreamz]

go with a wing...girls will see that you have a friend and be less scared of you.

be bold with the number close...you'll be suprised how a girl will say yes to giving you her number.

try to move around with her...tell her you need help with picking out some clothes and would like her to help you around. the key is indirection not direct. direct losers have some charm (its called look at this wierdo flirt with me hardcore with amusing lines) but they easily build resistance and lose the whole thing. and then they wonder why they always get the "i have a boyfriend" line and all the flakes.

if you're coming from behind make sure you're ahead of her before getting at her, don't yell at her back.

 

[xdreamz]

damn you do 100 approaches a day? dont you get tired?

 

[Beffing]

Be direct and just be yourself, dont get scared, youre just talking to another human being.

 

[rushing dude 123]

61 approaches this time guys, much better than 35 and my approaches were a lot wilder. i am going attempt this again on a better day hopefully.

 

[escaleraroyal]

100 in a day...thats a record.

 

[schttrj]

when u r talking about street approaches, are you doing it at day time or night time? if day time, please let me know more about it.

 

[rushing dude 123]

haha i havn't done 100 a yet, so far i got 61, but on my 4th attempt i will get it. Also i would say i do my approaches mostly in day time, but i do a few amount in night.#

I remember in day if i said hello to 10 people, 7 wud respond, but if i said hello to 10 people in night only 1 wud respond back. Unless it is in context like maybe a bus stop or at a club then its not a good idea.