Need help with oneitis

[DarkRomeo]

So me and oneitis have been talking for well over 3 weeks now, it started out with us texting and inboxing each other daily for hours on end. 2 weeks into it we had started to skype call each other, this had lasted for 5 or so days until we decided that we would meet up in person for lunch.

On the night before we had lunch the phone call was ending, and just as I was about to hangup she said "Oh and my favorite flower is 'French Penny'". I had noted that down so I could surprise her in the future with French Pennys.

The following day we had met up for lunch, the only problem was that we had a tight 30 minute schedule (we are both very busy during the week, so it makes it hard to find time). We decided to have lunch at a restaurant that was familiar to her.

It was really only small talk, and I would have loved to have a more in depth and exciting conversation but time was so limited. Just as we departed our separate ways I decided I should use a Kino trick that I had learned off a pua forum (I will include it in the following post, along with what happend).

My only problem now is that she has been very unresponsive to my texts/inboxes, she told me that she has been very busy and was finding it hard to respond. But in the entire time that I have been talking to her she had been busy, and that didn't stop her from messaging me.

Now I feel as if I am losing touch with her and we will eventually just stop talking. I know you guys are going to say, move on and talk to other girls...but I really am set on her, and I was 110% certain that she showed IOI's multiple times.

 

[DarkRomeo]

So here is the kino I peformed;

Me -I read something the other day in National Geographic. (or something similar, try to DHV that you read something else then just these forums )

She -What?

Me -Give me your hands, (hold her hands)

Me -Did you know that the human body produces 20% more heat when two persons of the opposite sex are in contact with each other. That is why it is so comfortable to sleep next to another person.

She -for real?

Me - (squeezing the hand) Yes and did you know that if the two persons are attracted to each other the body produces 30% more heat then it would if it was alone.

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She then asked me if I felt attracted to her, and I responded with a cheeky 'maybe', then I asked her the same question and she responded with the same 'maybe' and a smile.


I thought things were going pretty good, but lately it seems a bit meh.


What have I done;

- Provided Negs
- Funny/****y
- Both discussed topics with mixed emotions (no emotional tampon)
- Attempted Kino.


Thoughts on the situation? I'm just confused that she would go and tell me her favorite flower straight out of the blue, and show attraction towards me in person but not being responsive to my messages. What can I do to make things happen and escalate from where they are now?

 

[Eph]

So me and oneitis have been talking for well over 3 weeks now, it started out with us texting and inboxing each other daily for hours on end.

First mistake. Never talk so frequently or long unless you're both together in person.

2 weeks into it we had started to skype call each other, this had lasted for 5 or so days until we decided that we would meet up in person for lunch.

On the night before we had lunch the phone call was ending, and just as I was about to hangup she said "Oh and my favorite flower is 'French Penny'". I had noted that down so I could surprise her in the future with French Pennys.

Second mistake: Seems like she's calling the shots. She told you what her favorite flower was. You were (hopefully "were" at this point) going to play into her hands and buy them for her. Beta mistake.

It was really only small talk, and I would have loved to have a more in depth and exciting conversation but time was so limited. Just as we departed our separate ways I decided I should use a Kino trick that I had learned off a pua forum (I will include it in the following post, along with what happend).

Now I feel as if I am losing touch with her and we will eventually just stop talking. I know you guys are going to say, move on and talk to other girls...but I really am set on her, and I was 110% certain that she showed IOI's multiple times.

Third and fourth mistakes: You don't "decide" when to use kino. You let it happen naturally. And IOI's don't mean sh!t. Fake IOI's are much more common than IOD's. Your oneitis just seems to be using you and taking you for granted. If there's any hope of saving this (which at this point I doubt it), then you must be willing to lose her if worse comes to pass.

You're truly better off if you STOP reading into PUA. You're way too focused on picking up girls instead of just having fun with them. If you want this girl as much as you think you do, go get other girls, stop letting them call the shots, and most importantly never allow ANYONE to disrespect you. If you're not worth their time, then what's the point in talking to them?