Need help with HB6-7

[ssj4halo]

I wrote all this in another thread but i didn't get any responses. In a nutshell, I met this HB7 on plentyoffish.com and we talked through email for about a week. We went on a date on Monday and Yesterday. Yesterday, our date lasted for 4 and a half hours. A lot of kino, DHV spikes, flirting, etc happened. She suggested walking in a arboretuem(a 2 mile park that has a river right in the middle which leads to another small park located in my college town) Anyways, I messed up by not kissing her there(she gave me many chances). After eating out I dropped her off and kissed her twice.

I am still a virgin and I was with 2 girls before(never got intimate). Which means I am quite new to the game. Anyways, since I made out with her yesterday, should I call her today or wait for her to call? I had to intiate calls every single time. I'll link to the other thread if you guys wanna know the whole story.

 

[Solomon]

Give it two days before you call her

does she ever text you?

 

[ssj4halo]

no she hasn't. We haven't texted each other at all. Ill call her tomorrow then.

 

[shock]

I agree with Solomon. Just because you kissed her, is no obligation for you to call her. She is probably more than likely assuming or hoping you will... I'd let her sweat a bit.

And tomorrow is Easter.. it would seem a quick text, along the lines of "hi, hope you're having a good easter" would suffice, and then maybe call her monday, to set up a date for later in the week.

Send the message that you have stuff going on this weekend, and you're not desperate to call her right away. Seems her interest level is decent-high... keep it there by showing some self-confidence and peaking her curiousity.

 

[ssj4halo]

that sounds like a great idea suffice. She was telling me how her family celebrates easter together as well.

what do you mean by this. Am I supposed to text her this as well?

"Send the message that you have stuff going on this weekend, and you're not desperate to call her right away."

or would just a "hi, hope you're having a good easter" good enough for tomorrow?

 

[ssj4halo]

delete

 

[ssj4halo]

So I txt JUST text msged her "hi, hope you are having a good easter. :]" . She responded back "you too!" in less than like 5 seconds. I am not going to reply. I'll call tomorrow I guess.

My bad about the constant updates. I never went this far,sexually, with a girl. And obviosely I would ask for advice here because most of my friends don't know the game as well as you guys.

 

[SamePendo]

My bad about the constant updates.

No problem man!
You're doing great!

Just take it easy man. You sound like a cool and respectful dude, so just do what you know you must do.

Now, my advice to you is to do something else:

1) Date more women, look for more women.
2) Study hard or work hard, depending on what it is you do.

That way you'll be able to relax! And, if she gets crazy on you, well, you will care much less, because you did other productive things!

Great luck! Tell us how it goes!

 

[ssj4halo]

Thanks samependo. I am trying to talk to new girls everyday in class or in public. Just small talk or whatever. I am not nervous or acting AFC at all. Thank god.

Now a new update. I didn't call her on monday like you guys told me to. I went home for an interview..really busy. Anyways today a lot of thigns happened. Tried calling each other but we keep missing each other. We end up texting for a while. She tells me she is free fri, sat, sun. I tell her to call me when she gets out of class. She calls me.

We talked for about 5 minutes(my phone game got better, I can actually TALK to her normally now). Anyways, I end up suggesting if I can come over and we both make dinner and hang out at thursday night. She lives with +1 person who is never there in an apartment. I'm going to keep escalating and try to get to a f-close on Thursday.

Any suggestions..I have never been this far with a girl but I am not nervous, scarred, etc. However, any encouraging words or suggestions on what to do would be greatly appreciated. Do you guys think its wise to try going all the way at thursday?

 

[Big Poppa]

Take it fast but not too fast. You're on the right path I would guess man.

When you get to the whole sex part, spend a lot of time focusing on foreplay. They love it.

 

[ssj4halo]

Okay will do.

 

[ssj4halo]

gdam. I called her aftetr class and told her movie and take out. She called when she came back home and said her roommate is sick and I couldnt come over. And then we were thinking about things to do...obviosely we came up with nothing(spent talking for about 5 minutes thinking). She said she will call tomorrow after class is over and we will meet up on saturday. Its picnic day on SAtuday. More than like 50+ events happen simeltaneousely. The biggest festival day of the year in my college town. I gotta step up.

In either case, FAIL on my part.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

gdam. I called her aftetr class and told her movie and take out. She called when she came back home and said her roommate is sick and I couldnt come over. And then we were thinking about things to do...obviosely we came up with nothing(spent talking for about 5 minutes thinking). She said she will call tomorrow after class is over and we will meet up on saturday. Its picnic day on SAtuday. More than like 50+ events happen simeltaneousely. The biggest festival day of the year in my college town. I gotta step up.

In either case, FAIL on my part.

Yep. If you don't already have something to do planned, then just tell her you'll call her later and figure something out on your own. It's a shame, but it's much more attractive if you just tell her what you're doing rather than trying with her to figure something out.

 

[ssj4halo]

Thanks. Ill keep that in mind. I'm still seeing her. Surprising. We held hands, I did that hold hands squish, and she squished back, I let go, she held on. Kissed her several times.

I told her if she wants to eat dinner at tuesday night at tace bell. high school style!!(trying to say how high school kids go to taco bell for dates? I dont even know, it seemed like they would) she laughed and said okay.

Some problems, her parents know about me already and she said I can see them if I wanted. How do I act towards her parents? I never did this before. I don't think I wanna see him yet.

How do I signal to make out...cause we are not really making out...just kissing once or twice and then it just stops. We are going to be alone during tuesday night, so I really want to excalate...I gotta...its date 4.

I read about how you are supposed to qualify her(I can't beleive we got to know each other..your great!! or something like taht) so that she won't back down during sex(last minute resisitance mysterys method) When do I do this? I don't open to ANYONE. None of my friends(not anymore), family... Ever since I got totally shut down from the **** in high school(some girl), I was really picky on who to talk with about my feelings.

to expand on that, I dont know if its normal, but we havent talked about how we felt(feelings wise) about each other. Its always call hang out(the activity) while talking about stuff she likes/her and my life, kino a **** load, and kiss her bye.

Another problem is I feel really empty(today morning). Like something is missing inside me. I don't want to admit its cause I like her. Everything seems so dull and I cant stop thinking about her...Goddamit. I haven't felt like this since high school(three years ago). This bittersweet feeling. I kinda miss it.

Also, she never calls me or texts me. I have to do everything, but she always reciprocates postiviely when I escalate.

I'm also ****ting bricks when I feel like I have to escalate at a particular time with her. I know I want to do it but I can't move my body, im get too damn nervous. I already know the answers to some of these questions...I just need to it let out my system if you know what I mean

Also, its my birthday this friday. Am i supposed to tell her, or jsut ignore it?(im not really a big bday celebrater anyways.)

 

[Maxtro]

It's good that you found a girl that likes you and that you like too, but you are in dangerous territory. You differently have oneitis for her. You need to try and stay in control of your feelings.

I would not open up to her, there is no need for you to tell her how you feel. You are already doing fine by showing her that you like her.

There is no point in meeting her parents now. That's something that should only really happen if you've been dating for months.

Do you have a place where you can have sex with her without fear of interruption? If you do, your plan for the next date is to end up there. Make out with her as usual but over time start touching various parts of her body. Do some reading on foreplay and how to touch women. Also do a little research on Last Minute Resistance and Anti-Slut Defense.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

I would not open up to her, there is no need for you to tell her how you feel. You are already doing fine by showing her that you like her.

There is no point in meeting her parents now. That's something that should only really happen if you've been dating for months.

I'll 2nd the notion. Don't talk to her about how you feel, it's pointless. Meeting her parents when you guys have just started going out is also kind of odd.

If you're already kissing, then why not be making out? I guess I've never had to do this transition in any major way before, it just came naturally.

 

[ssj4halo]

I'll read up on that stuff. I am kinda familiar about it but I think those eronocious spots(those spots where no one ever touches like the inside of her elbow area, her forearms, etc). I need to reread that stuff.

I think we arent making out because every date we been on so far people are always around us(bowling, picnic day fair, arboretum/park(the small kids around us),walking around the town etc.) I don't want her anti slut defence coming up cause people are watching us(or so it seems). I think a seculded area would really make me escalate with no hesistation.

Thanks again DJs haha.

 

[ssj4halo]

today was great. Met at taco bell ate food. walked to park. major kino. She sat in my lap the whole time next to the slide area. On top of the slide thing. I kinoed her everywhere. Inner thigh, thigh, hands, palm, back, etc. After an hour we walked back to taco bell. I took a shortcut with her where it was isolated and made out with her.

We go back to taco bell. she goes for kiss for sayin gbye I just hug her. I saw her come for the kiss. Then we make out again and she walks back home.

She texts me around 11:30 pm. We were txting each other since then. I was gonna go to sleep and said when we meetin up again? She said she is free on the weekends. I replied that we can study at my place or hers and take breaks and talk. Im guessing its a bad move because its been about 4 minutes and she hasn't replied back. What should I do???

 

[ssj4halo]

update. She replied back "that sounds like a great idea (happy face) I am still free on the weekends" Today is Tuesday night. My birthday is on Friday(she doesnt know). Should I ask her to meet up tomorrow night and "study" couh cough..which will lead to major making out.

Need help ASAP anyone

i said "how bout tonight"
she: As in right now??
me: no later tonight you dork
she: I have work till 10 pm :/

Im gonna say. "yea after that" Good move...bad move...???

 

[HardTimes]

Just try to hit it as early as possible she will dump you in a few weeks for the next guy anyway.