"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Need help with emailing a chick!

donjuan_jr

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Hi guys,
Recently a friend passed to me an email of his sisters friend. He told me his sis has already informed her friend about me and that I will be emailing her soon. The problem that I am facing is:-

1) I don't have her picture! I am not trying to be shallow or anything, (I don't expect a model, just a decent looking chick will be fine ;)). How do you think should I go about getting her picture? I was thinking of inviting her to join facebook. Is that a good idea?

2) I am a shy person, especially when it comes to expressing myself in emails! (not so bad when I meet someone face 2 face) So what do you think I should write in the email?

I plan to only email her in about 3 or 4 days time, since I don't want to look like a desperado!

Thanks guys :up:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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speed dawg

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Pretty sure you aren't 25, and if you are, this isn't a topic that should be discussed in a mature man forum.

I'd tell your friend to introduce her to you, and go from there. Good grief.
 

donjuan_jr

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Is there a rule that says that we have to be all upthight and speak the queens english in the "mature" forum?

Look, I don't know whats up your a$$ but I suggest you take out your frustration at someone else.

And why the hell should I lie about my age? If I were younger then 25, I would have posted in the other sub-forum (maybe the people there would have been more helpful and friendly!) If you have no interest in helping, then don't!

To the moderators, if I have done anything wrong (maybe the tone of my post gave the impression that I wasn't serious) the pls do let me know.

speed dawg said:
Pretty sure you aren't 25, and if you are, this isn't a topic that should be discussed in a mature man forum.

I'd tell your friend to introduce her to you, and go from there. Good grief.
 

tx_xp

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Just send her a quick email saying hello to her a few quick things about you and what you like. Include your pic and say hey in case you are wondering my pic is attached and I would love to see yours too.
 

taiyuu_otoko

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quick, straight to the point email. sh*t or get off the pot.

"Hey friend of a friend of whoever. My sisters friend says you're pretty cool and we might click. Lets get together for a cup of coffee to see if she's right. Which is better, next tues at 4pm, or wed at 2 pm? I'm pretty busy so I only have about an hour each time."

if she doesn't immediately agree to either suggestion, nor offer a counter.....

NEXT
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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