need help with butterflies/ "anxiety"

[BongDuy]

when i meet a girl, i can usually be myself and just relax, be laidback and laugh. but when the sexual tension builds, or i get a ton of IOI, i get really excited in my stomach. i get the butterflies, like a schoolgirl. now don't get me wrong, i'm not having one itus ( my thoughts ARE NOT " oh my god! SHE IS THE ONE!") when i feel sexual tension build, i get really anxious or nervous in my stomach.

does anyone have tips to get past this?

 

[PokerStar]

take long deep breathes. in through your nose, out through your mouth. itll slow your heart rate. thats all i got.

 

[Atom Smasher]

A combination of what PokerStar says, and experience.

Just keep on keeping on until you're used to it. Know that you WILL mature out of that syndrome, even though it seems like you won't.

You're at the age whare this is perfectly normal, and more of your peers are going through the exact same thing than you may think. Accept it as normal, carry on anyway and soon it won't even be an issue for you.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I get this alot. I read somewhere that if you are around 35 and not married assuming that you have been in alot of on and off relationships it becomes much easier to get the butterflies in your stomach feeling.

What I do to avoid it is to just not let myself think of what "might happen" and keep myself in the here and now. Thinking about the future makes you worry.

If I already have the butterflies I keep the conversation lively and don't give myself too much time to think. If you quiet down and allow moments of silence it just makes it worse.