"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need Help With A Chick

Pipe Layer

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Basically, there this chick at my college that im kinda feeling, i started in september and i remember the first time i saw her, we made brief eye contact, we see each other often, eg, walkin by, her and her friends going to lunch, her walking to somewhere in the college, etc, etc and everytime i see her we always make a lil brief eye contact, its bout 1sec usually, if where walking past each other, theres always a look, no matter what shes doing, or what im doing, if we see each other, we always look, but never say anything.

I aint afraid of aproaching her but i dont know what to say to her, she studies fashion, i sometimes see her sitting on these steps, smoking alone, standing outside the art building, smoking, etc, but i always think, what should i say, i could easily go up to her but i just dont know what to say.

could u guys give me some ideas on what to say to her, how to get something going, i just need to know what to talk to her about, the thing is, usually when i get in a convo with a girl, as soon as i get comfortable, i will do the kino thing, make her laugh, flirt with her, etc but i need to be talking for a lil while with them to get the tension away.

Thanks.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hmm... you're 'kinda feeelin' already? And havn't spoken?

Some great Jedi once told me: "Emotions cloud thy judgement." Ahh, that was the best daydream I ever had.

Anyway...

Seems you've got opportunities aplently for approaching her. So, open with smething about her. If she's studying fashion, ask her about it in relation to what's going on around you people.

"So you study fashion? Sweet! So you're an expert at dress then, huh?" "Ehh, so - looking out at these chaps walking past, how many out of an average 10 would YOU say have fashion sense?"

If it's a low number, ask her what makes a good fashion sense. If a high number, ask what made her say that. Basically, ask open ended questions about things you're pretty sure she'll be able to talk about.

Be natural at it - and should come off fine. If you've got the skill, tease and joke with her. If you're not a funny guy, just keep the convo light and interesting.

I really can't help you with exactly what to say - just because I'm not you, and don't know what's congruent with your personality. What won't sound canned. :-/ 'fraid I'm the ol' dawg that'll just tell you to raise your confidence level to an extreme, and go talk to her, with no plan in mind. :p Cause that's when the most amazing sh!t can come out of a man's mouth.

:-D GL!
 

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yea basically, what u said is what i was looking, for, an opening

im confident to talk to her, i just needed a starting point, the fasion thing is good.

thanks man.
 
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