"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need HELP ! urgent

JimKnopf

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I'm a noob here and from Europe...but I've started with boot camp two weeks ago so I already mastered the Hi's and the Convos...and here comes my problem :

Within these weeks a girl from my school got interested in me..so we had some dates and now this whole thing is at a point where I should make the next steps(right?) ! ok today we went for dinner together and after that i wanted to get a step forward - for instance more kino...physical stuff etc. BUT I totally ****ed up and ended up being at a loss of words...so that it turned out that right now I'm in the chump section...

So here's the question ! and its really urgent...How do I proceed the whole thing...should I stay with my c&f attitude and act as if nothing happend or should i confront her....ARGH !!! i hate it when you fail and end up at zero ! HELP NEEDED !
yeah right now i'm in the total wuss zone BUT i want to improve y skills and want to change my ways of thinking, especially when it comes to women(therefore boot camp etc.) ! so i hope you can give me some advice ! thx
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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means : keep on with my game and make the best out of it ?
be yourself and don't try to copy any formulas or techniques ?
any further tips
 

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I tend to make a joke out of everything and that suites my personality. I'm not sure exactly what made you feel like a chump, or why you were at a loss of words, but let me give you an example of things I've done...

If the conversation dies down I say stuff like "Well, this conversation has certainly gone to sh1t."

Or at the end of the date that went well I've said "So, do I get that awkward first kiss now?"

Like I said though, this suites my personality and it more often than not gets a laugh and keeps things going.
 
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