"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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need help to overcome a competition

andy surianto

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hei guys...
i am an amature on this things
i've met this girl bout two months ago..
then i've been try to practice what i've been reading here.

she seems into me so much...
but she met this guy bout two weeks ago...
and she keeps telling me how kind and generous this man is..
while i am playing the ****y and funny things...

last week i called her, and she wa with this guy
and this week, she hasn't looked or called me at all like he usualy did.
now what should i do....??
i decided that i shouldn't be the first person to make the call.
i don't wanna look like a wussy.

this guy has a nice car and ofcourse richer...
but i look better..

i know i should just relax and watch the show...
but it's kinda hard...
this girl is so cool.... my type really...
so guys... most of u are better than me in this kind of thing...
what should i do to come out winning this competition.
thx u guys
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm Joe Dirt

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Looks like we have the following situation on our hands:

She meets you.
You didn't fulfill her needs.
She meets someone else.


Are you in a relationship with her? Have you been dating and been intimate with eachother?

If not, then she probably moved on. Why do I say this? Well she gave you TWO months to make a move and you didn't, so she figured you must not like her like that or you werent interested for some reason. So she moved on and met someone else and since you two didnt have a fight or nothing she just kept you on as a friend.

The stuff on this forum can only take you so far. Looks like you used it succesfully to develop an interest but never closed the deal on the relationship but kept going in "pursuit" mode for 2 months, way after you could've asked her out and been with her.

Sounds like you didn't have the courage to take it to the next level.

Of course this is all assuming you havent yet been intimate with her.
 

So pimp its scary

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sounds harsh, but
a) you've fvcked : next time she mentions the guy, dump her.
b) no sex : You just fell into friendzone, treat her like a friend, or drop her like you were together.

too tired to explain further
 

andy surianto

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thx guys

okay guys... thx u..
i know i've screwed it up...
any suggestion on how to get back on the track....
or to fix these mess?
 

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Originally posted by So pimp its scary
sounds harsh, but
a) you've fvcked : next time she mentions the guy, dump her.
b) no sex : You just fell into friendzone, treat her like a friend, or drop her like you were together.

too tired to explain further
Try if you like. But I would say at this point it's not really worth it. Look man your on this site and everyone has been where you are at one time or another, we all feel a sense of brotherhood towards each other. So remember to be a True Don Juan is to do your best in all things. Never half ass something and NEVER be afraid to do something. You are unlike 90% of the male population out there: You're a man.

Now with that said I think you have three options

1) If you really want her do something a little extream and ask her out.

2) Act like a friend to her and as someone to practice your DJ skills on.

3) Leave her the **** alone. As Pook says: "I have enough friends bye-bye."

Now personally I think the second one would be the hardest to pull off because you're still going to have feelings for this chick. BUT if you can get past that, she'll be a great resource to practice your DJ skills on. So that you can get better and hotter woman than her!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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