"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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goldStandard

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I'm 24 and I just recently moved to Vegas, the place where people party everyday of the week. I own my own business, have a 5 bdrm house and I have a huge master bedroom all to myself. I want to be the quintessential bachelor!!!!!!

Just recently, ever since I moved here I've transformed my mentality from a shy lazy nerd to someone who wont settle for less. I'm beginning to see women become more interested in me as time goes by. Going to the gym, going to bars, smiling, and projecting that touchy/feely attitude on women.

I'm beginning to f.close!!! However, I need help. I can f.close 5's and 6's but anything higher just makes me crash and burn. When it comes to the 7's and 8's I'm capable of spitting game but I can never f.close! The problem resides in the competition with another player! The past two weeks in a row I have been in a situation where I've ignited sexual tension to the point where I'm so close to f.closing, but effing it all up at the end. I already know what I need to do with the chick. Come on strong, be touchy feely and be very huggable.

The usual scenario of giving up is right when another dude jumps in and increases the "contacting/feeling". Just yesterday I was with this "8" who I was really interested in. I brought her to the living room of another person's house and we were about to sit down to take it to another level. At that exact moment the host comes in and interrupts the whole mood. So he just picks her up, squeezes her, looks into her eyes, and talks to her as her legs were wrapped around him! He wasn't interested in f.closing/messing around with her at all but his positive attitude just made her smile. I know the dude wasn't interested in her, he just wanted "ownership". in fact, I think the dude is a closet gay. What pisses me off is that I instantly had the thought of jealousy and projected a sense of awkwardness. My current emotion at that point in time had convinced me that I had failed my mission to closing an "8". and because of that I knew I lost my chance of any f.closure just from my attitude alone. These types of situations has happened over and over again.

I could have f.closed! I am concerned because this is going to happen if I don't fix it! What if next time I see a girl who I really really want. Some beautiful woman who will have the perfect personality interested in me, only to have me walk away just because some other dude tried to get at her.

I may have some trust issues because my ex gf cheated on me and it really ruined a year of my life. I never want to turn back.

I have a great life, great house, and great friends. but the underlying issue is value and trust.

Please help me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Slickster

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You need to isolate her when you are getting close. You weren't going to f close right there on the couch were you?

It sounds like you have a good attitude so it is only a matter of time. Its a numbers game sometimes.
 

tsmith2334

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goldStandard said:
I'm 24 and I just recently moved to Vegas, the place where people party everyday of the week. I own my own business, have a 5 bdrm house and I have a huge master bedroom all to myself. I want to be the quintessential bachelor!!!!!!
If this is true, you've got nothing to worry about dude lol.

Buy a nice car, a nice watch, dress nice but be subtle with your wealth.

Don't talk about it much on dates, just let it speak for itself. It will be the first thing girls pick up on.

Do everything else like you would. C+F, be pleasant (not pushy or arrogant), take the lead, smile, spin plates. Boom. Don Juan.

Dude if you're at least marginally good looking you will be made in the shade with that kind of $$$.
 
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