"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Need help - second date and some distance between us

Austrian88

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Hi... first of all, I've just registered here so please tell me if I've made any errors. Second, English is not my native language, so please don't be too hard with me on my English skills - but you can always help me with them and correct me if you want to ;)


So, I've met a girl who lives about 200km away from my home town when I was visiting her town, and we exchanged numbers and said we'd meet sometime - and we did, our first date (apart from that first encounter which was very short) was one week ago. Although I thought I had fu**ed up this date because I was really confused due to a party the night before - I don't really know why I did this but I guess I wanted to see her nevertheless - so nothing really happened, we just talked and I thought well, I'd blewn it. But after that date, we talked on phone and she told me she'd wanted to kiss me all the time... omg I swear I'll never drink too much alcohol the night before a date again. I guess if I'd been sober that day, I would just have made it...

So, the question is, we'll meet again and I just wanted to get some opinions how I should start that date... I guess it'd be somehow wrong if I just kissed her right away, even if we'd told each other how much we've missed each other... I don't know... if anyone just could give me some advice, I'd appreciate that... It's just that I don't simply want to pick her up, but I've really fell for this girl... and I guess it would be easier if she'd just live in my town and I'd have been able to date her the day after the first date, but waiting one week until meeting her while she tells me things like that doesn't really help ^^

// and I guess I've written some really bad English... sry for that, folks ^^
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Desdinova

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Use kino throughout the date, and kiss her at the end (unless she initiates the kiss during the date). Kino is essential in leading up to the first kiss.
 

Austrian88

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yeah, of course I thought of kino, but that's gonna be a long date :D
but thanks for your reply, I kind of guessed it would be wrong to go for it right away.
 

Chemistry

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Long way to go buddy... get reading the DJ Bible...

Reality check... you've seen this girl one time and you're madly in love with her? You don't even know half of what she's about... you're talking like a chick, that you 'fell for her'... but I guess you're young, you make your mistakes now

And honestly... be thankful that she lives far from you... you want to see this chick the day after the date? Haha... no... you need to do YOU for 6 days of the week then hook up on that one day... you try to see this chick everyday I'll give it a week before you're back on the forum asking why this chick didn't answer your calls...

What should you do when you meet her again? Skip the 'I missed you' BS... you're a DJ, you've thought about her once or twice in the week, but you've been so consumed in the wonderful life you had before you met her that that is all the time you had available to think about her... OK? Should you kiss her? Hell yea.. when you walk over to her, put your hand round her waist and kiss her on the lips... no tongues, save that for later
 

Austrian88

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well, "madly in love" would be an exaggeration... it's just that I want to treat her differently than some girl I hook up at a club... I guess it was a stupid thought. thanks ;)

but I guess you're young, you make your mistakes now
better now than later... I hope ^^
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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