Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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need help on this HB9 that im talking to

909pua

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ok here is the deal... im talking to this HB9 and tells me she has a boyfriend. I dont wanna make this a long post because our conversation was like 2 hours long and I want to know how to proceed in taking this girl out or how I should go about in taking her out. We've known each other for 2 years started off as friends.

ANyway she has a BF that she's been with for 2 months. I brought up sex and we start talking about the subject comfortably. She was in her office when were talking. I asked her questions about sex and it got to the point where she told me to close her office door so no one can hear..then the fkin phone rings and 2 dudes come in and interrupt and kill the mood. Me and her was in a sexual trance...i was trying to rile her up...then all this interruption fked up everything for 10 minutes. so 10 minutes past and it wasn't the same. i tried to bring up the subject again and asked her what she thinks good sex is. She then says "you know what i dont wanna talk about that, thats too personal for you to know, open my door". so that interruption that happened fked up everything. we were in some kind of trance for like 10 minutes before it got interrupted, with pure eye to eye contact.

anyway, to make this long story short, i tried to ask her if we can go out dancing at a club. She said.."not with you alone, i will bring my boyfriend"..i said "even better, bring him so i can meet him". SHe said she can't do anything until september because she is taking these series of CPA license tests. Then i told her i had to leave and she asked if she can borrow my pilot styled sunglasses. I told her no at first and she begged and i said OK. She said that i can get it back from her anytime. I asked her "what if your boyfriend asked where you got that?" she said "well i'll tell him i got it from my brother"...

I wanna take this girl out sooner and try to lead her back in this trance so i can penetrate in her defense. She was even showing me her hand and asked "do you think this is skin cancer cause i went to the beach saturday, they popped out of nowhere"...i looked at it and rubbed it a bit..(a lil KINO)....but i know i can dime this girl. What shall i do? please help?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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become disinterested and aloof. thats your only (small) chance at winning this uphill battle. if she starts persuing you, then we can talk about your approach.
 

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Joe Stud said:
become disinterested and aloof. thats your only (small) chance at winning this uphill battle. if she starts persuing you, then we can talk about your approach.
i just figured out in recent days that if i do it this way, she will never come pursue me. I just get a feel that if i push it a bit and do the pursuing, as long as i get her in a sexual trance w no interruptions, she will losen up and go out with me especially if i escalate KINO. So i think i will go this route and give you guys a field report later. so far she has my sunglasses so i have to go back and get it from her.
 

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problem with pushing her is - she will realize what you're doing and push back... trust me...

when you guys were in that trance and she was getting hot, then you guys got interrupted - you should have exited KNOWING that she would not still be in the mood to continue the discussion... during that time she was able to talk herself out of being turned on about what was going on...

the chances of you recapturing that moment by pushing her to open up are slim to none!

listen to what the others are saying... sit back, and play it cool... flirt with her, but trying to recapture this moment will be obvious... come back to it naturally when the moment calls for it (and believe me - a moment will present itself again; even if it's months away)...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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