Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I just recently discovered this great site, thank god. Ever since I've been soaking as much info as possible to the degree that it has made me reluctant to approach women in the sense that I know what to do(sort of) and def what not to do. I know that everyone says that you should just have fun when you are approaching women but it is not that easy in my mind. I guess the basic problem I have(along with some other basic problems lol) is that I'm not too sure how to open. I have a sociology class with a bunch of very attractive girls and i would love to talk to them but I'm not sure how to do an opener without sounding super lame... what do you guys think? any feedback is greatly appreciated.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Best advice I can give you is to LISTEN. Start with a hello, bring up anything topical, and LISTEN to her answers. The far majority of the time, they will say something that you can key off of into the next part of the convo (as Espi said). Just keep that going. The trick is to ask open-ended questions here. It doesn't help you if she can respond with a "yes" or "no".

As far as the "topical" discussion, it can be anything to do with your sociology class.
 
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PDubb75 said:
Best advice I can give you is to LISTEN. Start with a hello, bring up anything topical, and LISTEN to her answers. The far majority of the time, they will say something that you can key off of into the next part of the convo (as Espi said). Just keep that going. The trick is to ask open-ended questions here. It doesn't help you if she can respond with a "yes" or "no".

As far as the "topical" discussion, it can be anything to do with your sociology class.
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Exactly. Topical conversations are the way to go.

Don't think of it as "opening". Think of it as being a friendly human being. And I know "friend" is a bad word around here, but if you're trying to connect with these girls, you need to have some sort of social vibe about you.

So talk about how crazy the last test was, or how heavy the book is, or how cool the teacher's shoes are. Whatever is on your mind. You're hesitant because you think these girls will be like "Who is this dude hitting on me?" But you're not hitting on them. You're being friendly. And if they can't handle that, then f**k 'em.
 
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