"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Alright well heres the lowdown...I went on a date today with my gf (asked her out yesterday, she showed TONS of interest). We went with her friend, and her friend's bf, as well as two other guys that I know.
We went to a thriller movie, "The Strangers", and it was pretty good I guess. She kept holding my arm and got closer and closer ;)
Buut...I didn't initiate anything. I didn't put my arm around her, and hold her hand or anything. She was holding me the whole time.

However, her friend's bf and her friend were like holding each other and stuff. Kissing when we were waiting for our rides. All I ever did with her is hug her good-bye :down:
They would hold hands together while walking and I'd just walk beside my gf.
But then again...they'd been together for waayy longer.

Soo...What I'm trying to say is,
How do I get more touching/kissing in? How did you guys do it?
It gets pretty awkward so that messes me up. :nervous:
This has happened to me with all of my other GFs, screws me up big time.

I guess I just gotta get in the moood, get all energetic and stuff.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You just gotta start slowly and escalate. Next time, just grab her hand while watching the movie. Grab her hand when you walk with her. Then you can put your arm around her.

Next time you go out, give her a hug to start things up, and keep up the kino throughout. Then kiss her sometime during the date.

Yeah, it's easier said than done, but you gotta get out there and do it!
 
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next time boys...next time :up:

I tried going over to her house today, but she didn't want me to. She said it was too "messy"
But I think shes just embarassed of her parents and her older brother (hes a BIG TIME NERD/GAMER with no life and huge AFC)
Her parents are FOBs and can't talk english either.

Too bad...
it would've been fun

I'm starting to feel more at ease around her now. I just relax, and let my inner DJ go at her. Everything seems to just come naturally, all my come backs, my jokes, my C+F. Its all natural...very little thinking involved.

On our next date...I'll take it to the next level ;)
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Triple T said:
next time boys...next time :up:

I tried going over to her house today, but she didn't want me to. She said it was too "messy"
But I think shes just embarassed of her parents and her older brother (hes a BIG TIME NERD/GAMER with no life and huge AFC)
Her parents are FOBs and can't talk english either.

Too bad...
it would've been fun

I'm starting to feel more at ease around her now. I just relax, and let my inner DJ go at her. Everything seems to just come naturally, all my come backs, my jokes, my C+F. Its all natural...very little thinking involved.

On our next date...I'll take it to the next level ;)
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One question though:Where are her rents from?
 
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Triple T said:
next time boys...next time :up:

I tried going over to her house today, but she didn't want me to. She said it was too "messy"
But I think shes just embarassed of her parents and her older brother (hes a BIG TIME NERD/GAMER with no life and huge AFC)
Her parents are FOBs and can't talk english either.

Too bad...
it would've been fun

I'm starting to feel more at ease around her now. I just relax, and let my inner DJ go at her. Everything seems to just come naturally, all my come backs, my jokes, my C+F. Its all natural...very little thinking involved.

On our next date...I'll take it to the next level ;)
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lmao. I never thought I'd hear FOB again. Is she Hmong by any chance?
 
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Nah shes Chinese. Her parents are from China, but she was born here.
They still don't speak english too well tho :p
 
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You can't get intimate with her out of the blue, get her to think about making out with you. How? By talking about such things. Ask about what kind of kisser she is, or talk about french kissing or SOMETHING. Once it's her mind, her body will follow.
 
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^^Yea thats true.
But if I can only get some time alone with just her, then I could get intimate really easily. Thing is...I'm too busy with sports and stuff to hangout with her too much. Only times we hangout are with other people.

Weekends I'm booked for work and stuff too so I can't hangout with her then too much.

I guess its a good thing, because the times that I AM with her, then I leave a good impression and then she misses me. :cool:
A DJ is a busy man ;)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Triple T said:
^^Yea thats true.
But if I can only get some time alone with just her, then I could get intimate really easily. Thing is...I'm too busy with sports and stuff to hangout with her too much. Only times we hangout are with other people.

Weekends I'm booked for work and stuff too so I can't hangout with her then too much.

I guess its a good thing, because the times that I AM with her, then I leave a good impression and then she misses me. :cool:
A DJ is a busy man ;)
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True that man :D

And perhaps the FOB thing is just used throughout the Asian community then? lol

Anyway, when you guys are next scheduled to hang out with a group, you either 1) Isolate her OR 2) Cancel the plans with the group, and take her out by herself.
 
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Yea will do! :up:

Btw, she is the biggest girl version AFC I have ever seeen! I'm not complaining, but I guess I'm that good? :cool:

Yesturday she said she would have a "suprise" for me.
So after school today, she shows me this BEAUTIFUL drawing of me and her and various other items.
This girl has CRAZY talent with artwork. It took her TWO days to do, and its lovely!

She drew it based off of real pictures of me and her. And wrote a little note on the bottom about what I mean to her and how I make everyone of her days that much better.
You have to see it to believe it.


She crazy for me eh? :D
It'll make getting intimate with her that much easier. :rockon:


PS. I think I should change the title of this thread to maybe something liiiikke...."My inner DJ has been found + Results!" :D
PSS. I should've gone in for a kiss. It was perfectt..daaang, but w/e next time :)
 
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