Zerotwoonenine
Senior Don Juan
hey guys, i dont exactly undestand, what is a 1its, is it a girl who u dated but let u go, or is it a girl u had a relationship with, but a short one?? i dont understand.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
need help on 1its
- Thread starter Zerotwoonenine
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
AsianPlayboy
Banned
Oneitis is the girl you obsess about. Hardcore AFCs become afflicted with 1itis with a really attractive girl they've never even talked to. It's an obsession bordering on stalking.
1itis can also occur with your current LTR or even ex-. It's not always a bad thing, but it can become unhealthy if your life, pursuits, and social circle start and end with her.
Also not recommended if she's your first as you have nothing, physically or emotionally, to compare it to in order to know if it's "appropriate" to get all 1itis/LTR with her.
1itis can also occur with your current LTR or even ex-. It's not always a bad thing, but it can become unhealthy if your life, pursuits, and social circle start and end with her.
Also not recommended if she's your first as you have nothing, physically or emotionally, to compare it to in order to know if it's "appropriate" to get all 1itis/LTR with her.
I don't think thats the proper definition of oneitis & I'm sure it isn't a girl youv'e never talked to.AsianPlayboy said:
Oneitis is you dating/seeing one girl and focusing all you attention on her letting other potential hunnies slip by. Like tunnel vision or putting all your eggs in 1 basket. Diversify bro.
JPFromTally
Senior Don Juan
Oneitis is the antithesis of options. Most guys are devoid of options that they focus all of their attention one one girl, whether it be someone they like or someone they're dating.