Zerotwoonenine
Senior Don Juan
hey guys, i dont exactly undestand, what is a 1its, is it a girl who u dated but let u go, or is it a girl u had a relationship with, but a short one?? i dont understand.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
need help on 1its
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
AsianPlayboy
Banned
Oneitis is the girl you obsess about. Hardcore AFCs become afflicted with 1itis with a really attractive girl they've never even talked to. It's an obsession bordering on stalking.
1itis can also occur with your current LTR or even ex-. It's not always a bad thing, but it can become unhealthy if your life, pursuits, and social circle start and end with her.
Also not recommended if she's your first as you have nothing, physically or emotionally, to compare it to in order to know if it's "appropriate" to get all 1itis/LTR with her.
1itis can also occur with your current LTR or even ex-. It's not always a bad thing, but it can become unhealthy if your life, pursuits, and social circle start and end with her.
Also not recommended if she's your first as you have nothing, physically or emotionally, to compare it to in order to know if it's "appropriate" to get all 1itis/LTR with her.
I don't think thats the proper definition of oneitis & I'm sure it isn't a girl youv'e never talked to.AsianPlayboy said:
Oneitis is you dating/seeing one girl and focusing all you attention on her letting other potential hunnies slip by. Like tunnel vision or putting all your eggs in 1 basket. Diversify bro.
JPFromTally
Senior Don Juan
Oneitis is the antithesis of options. Most guys are devoid of options that they focus all of their attention one one girl, whether it be someone they like or someone they're dating.