"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I made out with this girl last sunday at this cast party for a play i was in. The signs were all there and i followed DiCarlo Kino Escalation Ladder pretty righteously. This week goes by and one of my buddy who was trying to hit her up to asks her to this invitational dance(it's a school dance but you can only be invited to go by the school staff). Anyways I act like i don't give a **** because my buddy hardly seems like a threat ( kinda major afc, not doing too well on the looks department, and does'nt have the same social proof as i do.)

Well yesterday which was a friday,i called her up and ask her if she wanted to chill, But she was with my same buddy at uno's. So i say "maybe some other time."

Well, anyways last night i get this text message from her " i think we should talk about what happened sunday night but i don't want to over the phone cause you can never be postive you know what the other person means."

Now from what i can tell, i'm pretty sure i'm gonna have to next this chick. I'm not to certain though, so some input would really be appreciated.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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^ dont listen to this guy; she just wanted to hook up with you once and doesnt want commitment just leave her alone
 

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bro have u ever heard the old "hook up with someone you regret" well thats probably the case here
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Update: Well it turned from meeting in person to talking on the phone. I chatted her up today and from what i can tell I'm still in some good graces. She asked me why i didn't invite her to that invitational dance. She also asked if i liked her and i said "maybe, I like a lot of things" ( i thought that answer was kinda weak)

The sad thing though was the fact that i was fretting over making this call all weekend and i know i shouldn't have. I don't know if it was the fact that i thought i was gonna be rejected or the fact that i thought some lesser quality kid snatched her up.
 
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