"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Need help increasing the attraction with this girl

Kal0051

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I recently became friends with this girl through one of her best friends. But I had a falling out with her friend (I was an idiot and she doesn't want anything to do with me). When I asked the first girl if she still wanted to be friends she never said that she didn't so we just kept talking and stuff. I really like this girl (she's pretty chill and fun to be around) and to top it off she's really attractive. She has a boyfriend though (doesn't it suck when that happens?). Anyway, I have no intention to split them up, but I would like to know how I can act with her to increase her attraction to me so maybe if they split up then I'll have an easier time. I know she finds me attractive (she told me), she likes me on a personal level (otherwise she probably wouldn't have continued associating with me now that her friend hates me), and she seems to love hugging me and gives me these subtle looks. We don't really hang out that much (we're both busy), we mainly talk via texts and on the phone. So, any tips.

And don't tell me to find another girl. I'm not planning on pining after this girl, I'd just like to prepare for the future. I plan to continue pursuing other girls, I'll make no secret of that, but I'd like to think of her as a long term "project". Plus I wouldn't want to **** anything up because she's awesome to chill with.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kal0051

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Bumping because I would like an answer to this question please.
 

EFFORT

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Not sure if your trolling or what. If your not then my advice to you is to forget about this "long term" project thing. If she was THAT attracted to you, she would be with you and not her bf. Focus your effort on improving yourself as a person and meeting other women. Only you know personally but it sounds like you don't genuinely want to be her friend, your just hanging around hoping to have a shot at her. This is not a friendship imo. If you have feelings for her go ahead and let her know and see what happens. (blow out most likely) but it'll be good so then you can move on.
 

Kal0051

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Sorry, but I would rather not say that I like her yet. I haven't know her that long, so I feel if I tell her then she'll lose all interest. I'd rather just be the guy she has tons of fun with and who can make her forget about her boyfriend.
 

horaholic

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Kal, you're not quite grasping the fundamentals here. You are asking for general pickup advice, and you're not gonna get that from any answers to you post. You're gonna get that from reading the DJ bible, (especially Pooks 15 lessons) and the tips section, and the archive section, as far as this forum goes anyway. You might as well be posting 'how do I get girls?"

The purpose of gaming other girls is to build experience, making you more attractive to ANY girl. And when you can attract many girls, you will not be trying to get any certain one.

If you want to provide us with certain details of an interaction, we might be able to analyze it and give you some tips on where you went right or wrong. You have to read up for a while, to get an understanding about the 'game' Watch some Mystery Method, or Style, just type in PUA on youtube. If you do these things, you wont be posting questions like these.

You cant go to a mechanics forum and ask "how do I fix my car?" You have to ask questions like "My car swerves to the right when I hit the brakes. What should I do?" Basically though, you need to read the manual first, to get a basic understanding. Thats what the DJ Bible is for.

Her, listen to this: http://www.realsocialdynamics.com/audio.asp Its two hours of gold advice.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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