Need help guys!

[Onion]

I need help bros. I've been dating this girl for a couple of years on and off. We broke up after a nasty drunken moment argument which I reacted to after noticing she was flirting openly with another guy. We got back together again after she claimed she's changed and begged me to give her another chance.

She has a history of cheating on her husband. Even though I had my strong reservations about her I decided to give us another go and really see if things were any different. Here are her qualities or things she's doing to prove she's indeed faithful. She's incredibly beautiful (hb9.5), very intelligent, our happy moments are great, we get on very well with each other.

She keeps me up to date with all her daily movements, she constantly calls and texts me, she blocked or removed her previous exes and dates, she dropped a couple of her friends which I don't like, our parents know about us and expecting us to take it to the next level anytime soon. So she's not really someone I can drop to FWB status. It's either in or out.

This past Saturday we went out with a few friends to a club. We had fun. But throughout the night I noticed she was flirting with this guy who was in our group. I know at this point she was totally drunk. After the night ended this guy insisted we should crash at his house as it was closer. I didn't want to and asked her to say our goodnights and leave. She refused and insisted on going to his house instead. In the taxi she insisted on sitting next to him rather than next to me which I thought was weird. This night and her behaviour has brought a lot of question marks and doubts whether or not this woman is any different.

She was totally devastated when she woke up the next morning the way she behaved and cried and very apologetic. What should I do at this point? Shall I continue with the relationship or pull the plug? Is it a one night drunken moment incident that I just need to brush off or a sign of something deeply troubling? If I have to press the eject button how do I go about it in order to reduce my pain? I do love this woman I can't lie. Help me out please.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Erm. There is a theme that runs through this.... flirting, cheating, more flirting, club guy. The words unstable and unreliable spring to mind.

Hard next on this one.

 

[Young OG]

I would pull the plug. I know it might not be easy because you have been with her for a while and she looks good. But, from my experience, once a cheater always a cheater. I was with a hb9 for 7 years. She had a history of cheating and I ignored it. She eventually cheated on me multiple times. I gave her another chance cause of our kid, but she kept cheating. The really hot ones are almost always untrustworthy and cheaters. Just get out now.

 

[mister.ritenow]

I need help bros. I've been dating this girl for a couple of years on and off. We broke up after a nasty drunken moment argument which I reacted to after noticing she was flirting openly with another guy. We got back together again after she claimed she's changed and begged me to give her another chance.

She has a history of cheating on her husband. Even though I had my strong reservations about her I decided to give us another go and really see if things were any different. Here are her qualities or things she's doing to prove she's indeed faithful. She's incredibly beautiful (hb9.5), very intelligent, our happy moments are great, we get on very well with each other.

She keeps me up to date with all her daily movements, she constantly calls and texts me, she blocked or removed her previous exes and dates, she dropped a couple of her friends which I don't like, our parents know about us and expecting us to take it to the next level anytime soon. So she's not really someone I can drop to FWB status. It's either in or out.

This past Saturday we went out with a few friends to a club. We had fun. But throughout the night I noticed she was flirting with this guy who was in our group. I know at this point she was totally drunk. After the night ended this guy insisted we should crash at his house as it was closer. I didn't want to and asked her to say our goodnights and leave. She refused and insisted on going to his house instead. In the taxi she insisted on sitting next to him rather than next to me which I thought was weird. This night and her behaviour has brought a lot of question marks and doubts whether or not this woman is any different.

She was totally devastated when she woke up the next morning the way she behaved and cried and very apologetic. What should I do at this point? Shall I continue with the relationship or pull the plug? Is it a one night drunken moment incident that I just need to brush off or a sign of something deeply troubling? If I have to press the eject button how do I go about it in order to reduce my pain? I do love this woman I can't lie. Help me out please.

you MUST give her the boot. Unfortunately compulsive cheaters don't usually turn over a new leaf, male or female.

 

[Peña]

I need help bros. I've been dating this girl for a couple of years on and off. We broke up after a nasty drunken moment argument which I reacted to after noticing she was flirting openly with another guy. We got back together again after she claimed she's changed and begged me to give her another chance.

This past Saturday we went out with a few friends to a club. We had fun. But throughout the night I noticed she was flirting with this guy who was in our group. I know at this point she was totally drunk. After the night ended this guy insisted we should crash at his house as it was closer. I didn't want to and asked her to say our goodnights and leave. She refused and insisted on going to his house instead. In the taxi she insisted on sitting next to him rather than next to me which I thought was weird. This night and her behaviour has brought a lot of question marks and doubts whether or not this woman is any different.

Sounds like she has not changed at all. She is bad news and I would get rid of her this time for good.

She has a history of cheating on her husband. Even though I had my strong reservations about her

Strong reservations and you know about her past cheating and you still want to be with her? You are crazy man to still want to be with her.

She's incredibly beautiful (hb9.5)

9.5 :crackup:

She was totally devastated when she woke up the next morning the way she behaved and cried and very apologetic.

Crocodile tears. How many more times will she do it again? She has done it before and will do it some more.

What should I do at this point? Shall I continue with the relationship or pull the plug?

If you are ok with being made a fool of continue on with this woman.

Is it a one night drunken moment incident that I just need to brush off or a sign of something deeply troubling?

Her cheating on her ex husband is not deeply troubling to you? She was drunk before causing you fights. Hit the eject button man. She is never going to change.

If I have to press the eject button how do I go about it in order to reduce my pain? I do love this woman I can't lie. Help me out please.

Bang a new woman to ease your pain. This woman will cause you more pain in the long run man if you stay with her. Get out now while you can.

 

[ucde]

She was totally devastated when she woke up the next morning the way she behaved and cried and very apologetic. What should I do at this point? Shall I continue with the relationship or pull the plug? Is it a one night drunken moment incident that I just need to brush off or a sign of something deeply troubling? If I have to press the eject button how do I go about it in order to reduce my pain? I do love this woman I can't lie. Help me out please.

I'll say some stuff and share my perspective here, since you seem sincere.

For background: I'm big into meditation and spirituality, being in nature, self-analysis, and living as clean as possible. If that's boring, then feel free to disregard this advice.

Drinking alcohol to the point of drunkenness with other people is basically an invitation for the darker side of your personality to come out and play.......in the presence of those you most love. Human beings who lack self-awareness are generally already prey to confusion, internal brokenness, fragmented personality, lack of compassion for themselves and others, deep wounds, and imbalanced ways of expressing themselves and experiencing reality. When you get drunk, you are basically double-dog-daring the universe to amplify your confusion, your inner turmoil, your internal brokenness.

And surprise surprise, deeply hidden issues come to light. Alcohol already wrecked your relationship with this woman once, it sounds like. Here's the truth: yes, you both have unintegrated shadow sides to your personality; yes, if those aren't carefully dealt with, they will destroy your relationship. In choosing alcohol, you choose to handle each other carelessly and unconsciously.

That means your beautiful relationship could end up in the dirt, totally fuxxed. Sounds like that already happened a while ago too. The fact that when somber, she apologized profusely, already tells you where her real head and heart are: with you. Print out this text, show it to her, and have a conversation over it.

 

[Casillas]

Sometimes the things that we make while we're drunk is the ones that we don't have the courage to do sober. If you were sure about of your relationship you wouldn't be here asking for our advice so in other words "Move on"

 

[skinnyguy]

When it comes to very hot women, I tend to lose interest after the 2nd date. Basically because they act childish and stupid like this girl.

She's clearly BPD and you should have dumped her after you fvcked her the first time. That's the only way you can keep these hoes in line.