"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Need Help guys... VACATION GONE BAD

judoguy

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So i went away this weekend with my 2 year LTR.

We fought for 3 hours before we went on Friday night about some stupid bull**** because I didnt want to take my car. I told her I am not going away with her if she continues to behave like this. She then told me to get out of her house and I said fine with me. The fight ended w. her telling me to get out of her house and me leaving. I wa about 2 seconds away from pulling out in my car and leaving. She ended up running to my car to stop me when I was about to put the car in drive.


I ended up having to pack the car and drive 4 hours to Washington Dc while she slept the whole way. What was I gonna do ... I already paid for the dam hotel !


We fought again the next day and then had a fun day on Sunday. We had another huge fight on the way home today which ended with her calling me irresponsible and me screaming and calling her a ****ing *****. Again it was a silent 4 hour car ride. with her crying and sniffling loudly to make sure I heard her cry.

I think I need to end this relationship and just have fun being single. I need your opinion and support though fellas. This girl has been great to me and we have had great times but I just think its over because we just do not get along. I am still an AFC in these regards because I just cant picture her with another guy and I do not want to see her upset. I am also upset cuz she is a good girl and has stayed loyal to me while I was in Afghanistan.

I need motivation from you guys about how I shouldnt have to deal with this **** and teling me to break up with her or even if I should.


Thanks for the help guys....

I know i sound lame.... its hard
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Killer Six Pac

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Sorry to hear about your problem... but some of us are worse then you and never even been in a relationship...we don't know everything...
 

j0n024

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Jeez...your the one saying it's a bad relationship so man the fvck up and dump the b1tch **** grab your balls and dump her if not then continue to fight like a little b1tch....
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'll try and help. First off, you shouldn't be calling her a %^%&&. Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship for either of you to me. You should talk to her and discuss that IF things don't change then it would be best for both of you to see other people instead of being unhappy all of the time. Just talk to her and try and change things and if that doesn't work be a man and move on.
 

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Hey guys... It's been awhile since I have been here. About 3 years actually.
I used to prowl the forums, my old name was snowboarder6578. Those were the days when Jester was the main poster. Anyway a little quick update and bio about me. I have come a long way in 3 years.

I found the boards and immediately began putting the DJ bible to action. I got into a 1 and 1/2 year LTR that I ended in August of 2005. I spent my 3rd semester in college having fun a few hookups, 1 f-close and a lot of #'s. I ended up joining the Army and got in another LTR.

I have been with my g/f now for over 2 years. I just got back from deployment and she has been faithful... that I know of ... so things are going well. That was May.

I will be attending University again this fall and I am happy with my life. I came on here for two reasons :

1. To say thanks to all the people who helped me become the man I am
2. To inspire people to show that even though you are depressed and sad now things in your life can turn around.

I am here to awnser questions about LTR's and continue to learn and grow as a man.
 

Being_the_Don

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Have you two always fought or is this something that's happened since you came back to her?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Considering he's 15..and by his responses..I'm not sure he belongs in the MM forum
 

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judoguy said:
you guys suck

supposed to help motivate me and not back down

you just talked ****

Look, my post was being 100 percent honest. You need to have a serious convo with your girl about this matter without arguing and let her know that if it can't be fixed then it's time to move on. Otherwise, you are just spinning your wheels. Also, you shouldn't cuss your girl out ever. It's just unhealthy for both of you and will lead to worse things.
 

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Hey guys... It's been awhile since I have been here. About 3 years actually.
I used to prowl the forums, my old name was snowboarder6578. Those were the days when Jester was the main poster. Anyway a little quick update and bio about me. I have come a long way in 3 years.

I found the boards and immediately began putting the DJ bible to action. I got into a 1 and 1/2 year LTR that I ended in August of 2005. I spent my 3rd semester in college having fun a few hookups, 1 f-close and a lot of #'s. I ended up joining the Army and got in another LTR.

I have been with my g/f now for over 2 years. I just got back from deployment and she has been faithful... that I know of ... so things are going well. That was May.

I will be attending University again this fall and I am happy with my life. I came on here for two reasons :

1. To say thanks to all the people who helped me become the man I am
2. To inspire people to show that even though you are depressed and sad now things in your life can turn around.

I am here to awnser questions about LTR's and continue to learn and grow as a man.
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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keep her around for sex and date other girls, its THAT simple

you are a don juan, YOU make YOUR OWN rules

**** what others think or want!!!
 

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judoguy said:
So i went away this weekend with my 2 year LTR.

We fought for 3 hours before we went on Friday night about some stupid bull**** because I didnt want to take my car. I told her I am not going away with her if she continues to behave like this. She then told me to get out of her house and I said fine with me. The fight ended w. her telling me to get out of her house and me leaving. I wa about 2 seconds away from pulling out in my car and leaving. She ended up running to my car to stop me when I was about to put the car in drive.


I ended up having to pack the car and drive 4 hours to Washington Dc while she slept the whole way. What was I gonna do ... I already paid for the dam hotel !


We fought again the next day and then had a fun day on Sunday. We had another huge fight on the way home today which ended with her calling me irresponsible and me screaming and calling her a ****ing *****. Again it was a silent 4 hour car ride. with her crying and sniffling loudly to make sure I heard her cry.

I think I need to end this relationship and just have fun being single. I need your opinion and support though fellas. This girl has been great to me and we have had great times but I just think its over because we just do not get along. I am still an AFC in these regards because I just cant picture her with another guy and I do not want to see her upset. I am also upset cuz she is a good girl and has stayed loyal to me while I was in Afghanistan.

I need motivation from you guys about how I shouldnt have to deal with this **** and teling me to break up with her or even if I should.
If the good times with her outweigh the bad, then stay with her. If you want to be single because you can't handle the constant fights, then break it off.

It sounds like you want to stay with her because of the sex, but you also want to be single because you don't want to deal with all her emotional baggage. But you also don't want her to date any other guy either. I don't know if it works that way.
 

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Thanks for the help guys...

I guess I am gonna have to do some soul searching


Alot of the problem is I read FR's on here and get jealous because I want to be goign out with/ laying multiple women. I am only 21 and shouldnt be tied down.

There is another side to me however that says I have a good thing here and shouldnt ruin it.


BTW I am 21, not 15. I am a combat vet and have experienced more at 21 then most have their whole lives. IDK where he got that I was 15


Anyway thnx for the help again.
 

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judoguy said:
Thanks for the help guys...

I guess I am gonna have to do some soul searching


Alot of the problem is I read FR's on here and get jealous because I want to be goign out with/ laying multiple women. I am only 21 and shouldnt be tied down.

There is another side to me however that says I have a good thing here and shouldnt ruin it.


BTW I am 21, not 15. I am a combat vet and have experienced more at 21 then most have their whole lives. IDK where he got that I was 15


Anyway thnx for the help again.
ur 15...
 

judoguy

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wow the quality of this board has really gone done.

Now I have a troll claiming I am 15.



awesome.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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