"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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need help, girldfriend depressed, treats me poorly

darkstarrr

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MR_PERFECT said:
but I didn't know what to do when I was seeing a girl and she stopped seeing me cold turkey. I got sick after that phone call - so much so that I actually threw up blood. I saw a friend the next day and she thought I was dying.

You have to understand your feelings and why you feel the way you do. And you must also realize it's not the girl, she symbolizes something to you, just think long and hard about what it is. The girl I mentioned above represented how women saw me. I felt I could attract but not measure up in the long run. I needed to get to know myself to build confidence.
This is good advice. I believe it is true that the extent to which I flipped my lid was a result of what you just explained. I do believe however that the deceit that took place in my situation coupled with where I had envisioned the relationship as going was also very serious.

This world is a place where people with higher morals and values are often the ones that suffer the most in intimate settings. At first it maks me want to become a fvcking a$$hole to women and just not care about anything. I won't fall victim to this crap but I will instead continue to improve myself as best as I can and avoid b1tches like this who are more apt to take advantage of my big heart while at the same time not appreciating me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Soory to say it bro, and Im doin it for your own good remember.
You are being an enormous vagina. You are completely allowing this woman to dictate your own personal value. The way she behaves is disrespectful. If you truly believed in yourself and lived life by your own terms you wouldnt even begin to even think about allowing this. I dont see why men dont value themselves enough....WAKE UP MY FRIEND! YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR UNIVERSE!!!!!!!!!!! live like it. Look after your own self interests, there is nothing wrong with this.
She is looking for an excuse to get rid of you I PROMISE YOU THIS, there is no salvaging this. I speak from experience here. Once relationships crest a certain point they NEVER EVER EVER EVER recover. WALK WHILE YOU CAN WITH DIGNITY. Dont give her the pleasure of making you pathetic.

SIDENOTE: You want an example of how to behave and value yourself (minus the drugs and alcohol of course) as a man watch these 2 shows:
1.RESCUE ME (Tommy Gavin)
2.CALIFORNICATION (Hank)
 
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