Need help getting to the next phase of being a DJ(phone calls, dates. etc..)

[Deicide]

Hello. This past week, I was finally able to get multiple phone numbers from approaches. I thought Thursday "I have 5 numbers now, I'm going to be spinning plates in no time!". But, now it doesn't seem that way. I've contacted 4 out of 5 of the girls, and I will contact the remaining one tomorrow night. Basically, bad luck continues to happen when I call girls. I called one of them today around 3 PM, and she was in church! I thought she had bad service because I heard people talking in the background, then I called her again, and she told me what she was doing, and I told her I would call her later. I did, and she hasn't answered. I wanted to set up time for us together, but I don't know what will happen.
I called another girl to set up a time for us to speak Portuguese together, she hasn't answered or replied. Another one of my numbers has yet to add me on facebook like she said she would, and another one didn't reply back to my text today. I guess I need 10-15 numbers to succeed. Approaching women is no longer a big deal, but I am clueless as to how to handle the situation once I get the number. I'm wanting to ascend and to start spinning plates with multiple women, so what should I do?

 

[rushing dude 123]

Ok firstly bro getting the number dosn't mean nothing with out the follow up, so never start celebrating when you get a number, rather accept it and then take the next step.

Flakes happen bro it is a part of life, especially when you are starting off. Now there is two ways we can minimise a flake, the first is the initial interaction. If you have a really great initial approach, this girl will change her plans from anything to get to see you again. I won't go in too much detail because there is a lot of advice on this forum about that and you havn't given me any details on the approaches. Just make sure to really find a lot of things your interested in her, explore her mind and really create that connection along with using C+F.

The second way to minimise it is how you go about making the call back.

(these are guidelines, use them for now)

1. Call her within 3-5 days

2. Call her on a sunday, monday, tuesday and wednesday about 9:15-10:30 you are more likely to get a answer because shes at home, she will have a peaceful mindset and you will be the last thing she thinks about when she goes to sleep.

3. Do not tell her you are going to call her at a specific time, no sense of mystery and its not really spontanious (hint church girl)

4. If no answer, don't leave message, Call her again in the next 1-2 days

5. If she dosn't answer the second time leave her a text message, keep it simple maybe jokinly remind her who it is, but don't tell her exactly. I always like to put mysterious dude, but if you want to tell her your name you can. Then after just tell her to call you back when shes free.

5. If shes a texter girl (u will know what i mean) and dosn't call you back and just texts you,keep it simple and quick just ask her out and just take her answer has yes or anything else has no.


6. When talking to a girl on the phone have some topics in mind rather than the usual "how are you". When i get a girls number i write down her name and all the things we talked about. Then when i talk to them i subtly bring what we talked about in the convo, she knows i was listening to her and feels more comfortable seeing i know more about her. This reduces flakes a lot...

7. Talk to her for only 2- 10 mins then set up a date, (also good to have a few ideas in mind before you call depending on what she or you like)

8. Send her like a reminder text before date as well, but not something like "are you coming" haha, but more something like "just texting you to let you know I havn't forgot about you, I will see you tommorow". this brings me on to my next point...

9. Always assume the sale


O your free friday, would you like to go out with me friday? Wrong

Assume the sale
Ok kool we can play pool meet me at x at x and i will pick you up. (see there is not even a question for me to reply too)


10. Keep it light, Take risks, You have to be different from the rest when talking to her. Try pull of some crazy stunts some of like asking her "what shes wearing" or play a song when she asks who is this....preferably "sex bomb" haha....these are just some stupid ideas, but depends on girl and what you talked about before.

So yeah those are somethings you can stick by. Also one more tip when you ask her out instead of asking her if shes free on one day, try asking her if shes free on either a X or X. I personally just ask them what days they are free.

 

[Deicide]

Cool, thanks for the list of advice. One of my text-girls replied back and asked about my relationship history among other things last night. I saw the church girl in the cafeteria and I'm supposed to meet her tomorrow night to "hang out". I am not getting friend zoned by her. No way. I'll be ready.