TrickyD said:
1. Do you think her sudden excuses are by accident?
I think her interest in me is about the same as my interest in her, so she doesn't put forth any effort to "make it happen", which is fine, up until the point where her flirtation turns into blatant teasing.
2. Have you made out with her yet?
Several times
3. Did she just get out of a relationship?
Not really. She dates here and there but hasn't been in anything serious for a long time.
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4. Do you know anything about her relationship history?
She doesn't talk much about it, but from what I gather she tends to date older, provider types. And that ain't me!
I don't like the politics in these kinds of situations. Her talking sexual then pulling back smells of a power play and you reacting to her (by cutting her off or talking about it) will give her what she wants -- the emotional reaction (aka He really does care about me!). She may just like knowing that you are attracted to her and uses that as validation -- but something tells me that you know all this already!
That's why i have chosen to just forget about it and let it run its course. Back to status quo. I'm gonna step down the sexual innuendo. She will get the hint.
Do what I will do the next time -- attach a price to the validation! Make her buy you dinner and drinks while you flirt. That way, if nothing else happens, you get something out of it at least...
Actually, I was out with her tonight, and she paid my tab. It was more of an "I'll get ya next time" kind of thing, but she isn't a mooch, I'll give her that.
Speaking of which, I hit up happy hour with her and some of her friends and had a great time. Took my mind off of things.
Later I went out with another group of friends, and on the way home I ran into a chick who I thought had the hots for me awhile back. She was in the mortgage business and was the assistant to the guy I used to use for loans, and every time I would stop by the office I got that "giddy schoolgirl" vibe from her.
Well, I got separated from my friends at the end of the night, and I'm walking over to get some pizza, and I hear a chick screaming my name from across the courtyard.
"OMG!!!! It's been so long! I've been thinking about you! Blah, blah, blah" Kino all over the place, same giddy vibe, deer in headlights look, I thought for SURE she was now single and ready to go.....
So then she drops the "M" bomb on me. She's married. Gives me the impression that it isn't the "best" situation, but she's cool with it. Hubby just happens to be out of town. Hmmmmm....
We go into the pizza place, she wants to say hi to my business partner (who was one of the ones who I got separated from) so I call him and she talks to him on the phone for a minute, and promises to "get me home safely".
Not two minutes later, her body language goes from hot to cool. She starts flirting with this other guy. I was thinking about ejecting and walking home, but it was raining, so I stuck around, even though I wasn't feeling it.
She drove me home, I made a last ditch effort asking her if she wanted to come in for a few minutes to which she replied "I can't". Told her I would ask for her email or something but since she was married and all.....blah, blah.
She didn't offer anything, so i let it go, told her to be safe, gave her a hug and she was on her way.
It really wasn't a big deal, and I don't really need to get involved with a local married chick anyway, but the "hot to cold" thing doesn't do any good when you are trying to pull yourself out of a rut. The night was really good, and seemed to be getting better (I had always had a thing for this chick) and then BAM....she does a 180. It was a bit of a buzz kill.
Oh well. I'm trying. At least I'm getting out and making an effort to better the situation. I know you can't win them all, and even when you think you have something in the bag it's never a sure thing till your d!ck is wet.
Probably for the best anyway. I'm not looking for a quick lay. it would probably do more harm than good.
Gotta keep on keepin' on.....
