"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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need help getting a convo rolling

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i read the topic in the 'DJ bible' but dont get it, sorry my bad, but how can i heat up a convo without saying something to make it boring because thats happened alot! she plays sports and loves to shop, usual girl stuff, maybe yall can help me out?
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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*bump*
 

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Don't focus on this one girl, practice, you seem to have one-itis, if you have otehr options you will be more relaxed.
 

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You shouldn't need to really rely on canned stuff - don't walk up to her with a mental list of what you're going to say.

It will be much more natural, and easy, and comfortable for both of you if you just use situational stuff - look around you, what's odd/funny/weird going on? Is there something cool about her clothes? What about tests - how did she think she did on the last one in math? How did you do in math? Isn't math stupid, when will you use this in the future - the last time you used math was trying to see if you could afford a $3.99 shirt at Old Navy - has she ever seen the bargains there? What's the best deal she's gotten on shirts, does she know where you could get some good ones?

Just...it's natural. Talk to her like you talk to anyone, just don't swear up a storm, keep the language clean, and let it flow naturally. You might get a dead spot or two in conversation - just learn from your mistakes and get better as you go along. :)
 
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