Need help from the house that built me

[HandsomePete]

Hey guys, I am 21 years old and have been looking at the Don Jaun center since I was in high school for advice, and it's always helped me out. I find myself in a situation now though that I have honestly no idea how to get myself out of=(. My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now, and our relationship has had it's bumps, but it's honestly a very good relationship that was worth working past our problems. Me and my lady have been ****ing for a while now (I think we started after 2 months of dating). Now every now and again she would bleed while having sex, but she wasnt on her period so we didnt know what it was, sadly to say she just got tested yesterday to see if it was an STD or if something was wrong with her. It turns out she has some kind of problem down there where a gash or access skin is there and I'm tearing it when I go in. The thing is though that I didnt take my girlfriends virginity, so she asked the doctor that this only happens with her current boyfriend (myself) and the doctor explained to her it's because her current boyfriends penis is larger then her ex's, so that explains why I'm hitting it (honestly this is the only good news out of this story). So she got really nervious because she's 18, and she still lives at home with her parents. So she wanted to go to a gynocologist because thats what the lady at the free clinic told her she should do because the problem she has could become cancer. The problem is she thought she should tell her mom about the whole thing about us sleeping together and the problem. I told her I didnt think that was such a hot idea because her parents dont know that we have sex, let alone that her daughter isnt a virgin. She was crying to me on the phone driving home and told me she wanted to tell her mom, but she doesnt want to tell her mom that she lost her virginity to her ex because her family HATED him (her ex is involved in gangs, drugs and has been arrested numerious times: not a good guy). Sadly I heard her crying and wanted to calm her down so I told her it's ok if she says she lost it to me (huge mistake on my part >.<). So that night she told her parents the whole story (just not the fact that she lost her virginity to her ex). This is really bothering me because right now her parents HATE me because they said there disapointed with me because I took advantage of there daughter, and just wanted sex. Now her parents want to have a talk with me about this whole thing, and they are probably going to yell at me because they think I took there daughters virginity. The reason I know they dont know she wasnt a virgin was because they told her they were upset she did this before marriage. I honestly wouldnt have a problem talking to her parents about this situation if they knew I didnt take her virginity, I mean right now they are picturing me to be this bad guy and I didnt do anything wrong. No joke the first time we had sex, I went to the bathroom while Erika was on my bed, come back and she's wearing nothing but her lingerie. Oh! and she actually has had more sex then I've had lol, I've slept with 2 other women (and got oral sex from someone else), but I slept with 1 of them 4 times, and the other just twice, Erika slept with the same guy for almost a year. What I'd like to know is, what should I do now because I dont know how to handle getting yelled at for something I didnt do. =( PLZ HELP lol

 

[Eulogy]

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Try that again.

 

[Morphiex]

woah thats really a tough situasion .....

U cant really tell her parents the truth cuz then ull be betraying her , but if u do tell them the truth will it change anything, u are still having sex with her and they dont like it..... so my suggestion is to talk to your girl about this , if she really doesnt want to tell them that it was the first guy and if ur really are oki with getting the blame for her first time then take it as it comes .... But if she is willing to tell them about the first guy , it probably will only do a litle good, cuz ur still having sex with her and they wont like that anyway.....

I dont know , dont see a good outcome out of this only bad and a little less bad....

(edit) and i think its good that she told her parents about the hole cancer thing , its better to find out about it at a young age cuz the chances to fight cancer is better , but still i hope it isent cancer for you two.... best of luck to you mate =)

 

[JonJack]

Look. You already said that you would take the fall for this. Now you feel like backing out? Stick to your freakin guns man. If you don't like putting yourself in such dicey situations, then give yourself some time to think things through before you give an answer.

Since you've already given your answer, I suggest you stick by it. Doesn't matter what shyt you have to go through man, sticking to your word is more important. Unless of course you decide you don't mind 'insulting' your gf by turning 180.

 

[Vincent]

My head just exploded from the lack of grammar and spelling in this thread.

Common guys, u is fine when you're text messaging but you is only 2 more letters, don't be lazy and make this forum respectable with good grammar.

OP: Please repost that with some concern for the reader. It's a lot easier to read something that actually looks like you took english 1 in highschool.

Thanks.