Need help from the DJs on here.

[longjohn]

Right, here's the problem, chaps.

Met up with an old girlfriend today(from midteens; didn't have sex back then.) We chatted. We had fun. We came back to my place and one thing led to another and we had sex. Afterwards, she expressed regret, despite trying her hardest to spare my feelings: i felt a little shot in the back. A little used.

Her repeated claims of her not wanting a relationship and us staying friends, merely aggrivated me further, made me feel rejected. Despite me not wanting a relationship in the first place. I gradually froze her out, before sending her in the direction of the train.

Her repeated claims to spare my feelings and her excuses immediately smacked of women-speak to me and i felt patronised.

The girl herself has been through alot. A rape, and being kicked out of her parents: In spite of all this, she has perscevered to university and from my impression today, she has a grown a thick skin and a resillent personality. Definately not your average girl.

I don't particurlarly want to see this girl again, but i too feel empty, but wondering if my actions were the right ones. I essentially ask the question, in case this situation turns up in the future, and i want to be better equipped to handle it.

 

[Lucas718]

So this chick offers you sex with no strings attached and you get mad at her? She expressed regret because she was feeling like a slut and you did nothing to reassure her that it was ok. Getting mad at her only ensured that you will never see her naked again.

 

[longjohn]

^ Is this the best advice, i can get. How do you know i didn't reassure her. Could we avoid the bleeding obvious hateful remarks, and stop getting tips from the keyboard jockeys.

I don't want to see her naked again. I just want a few tips to act in that situation. It is a difficult and emotional situation to be in; that happens more often than people think. If there is a bible article, someone give me the html.

 

[typical]

Pick your phone up and delete her number, her life problems are not for you to deal with, her life she can get fvcked up if she so pleases.

All in all she used you for sex nothing else, then tried to emotionally blackmail you, which worked, she got the sex then made her self feel better by making you look like a badguy, you just got used bro.

At the end you dont need a chick like this in your life, the sex nor friendship is worth it, and if your not careful next time shes at you place and something happens dont come back crying she said "I raped her".

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

hang in there man

I've had the same thing happen to me. I'm trying my best to move on, but its hard, I can't stop thinking about the girl. my coping mechanism is pretending the girl didn't reject me, but simply vanished. Pretty lame huh? I'll either keep pretending that, or drink my feelings away. but I do feel the pain, and i imagine you feel something similiar.

 

[typical]

Oh cry me a f'n river man, like really your sitting there drinking yourself to try and forget this chick, buddy 6.5 billion people in the world, it doesnt work with 1 of them theres another 3 billion or so out there.

Man the hell up and go meet another few girls and start to live again. sitting there feeling sorry aint gonna change anything, sh!t happens learn to get over it quick or its gonna fvck your life up.

 

[longjohn]

Tough luck. This is the kind of convo i wanted to get going. Yes, i do feel used. Totally used. The total lack of emotion on her face pieced me off even further; like she could turn it off.

I can't stop thinking about her, reallyfreakinglost Cause i feel like i was screwed over and it's shot my self-respect to the core. I imagine you felt a loss of self-respect.

To all the KJs, this is certainly a topic beyond the faux-DJ reports you regularly post and is definately controversial- so all unhelpful replies are welcome, i'll just shoot them down.

 

[flexion_]

Ignore what she says - just judge things by what she does....

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

Call me a crybaby all you want but no matter what the hell i do, my pain does NOT go away, it isn't fair how most guys can simply GET OVER ****. something about me gets me feeling this pain everytime i'm rejected, and i'm freaking tired of it, about THIS close to giving up on all girls. I know there's 6 billion people in the world, but i don't want a fat or ugly girl and that is all that seems to like me.

 

[typical]

Sit the F down and ask yourself why the F your hurt, like really why ???

Bro I'm not gonna paint a preety picture for you and hope you understand the truth of the matter is your a F'n nice guy and guys like you get used plain and simple, your the doormat they use to release all their crap on, you know why cause you react just the way they want you to, some chick trys that on me I'd plain turn around and walk off aint worth the pain.

And bro you cant be that F'n ugly that only lame chicks dig you. Work on that inner game man, like seriously man. The outer game is natural its basic instincts, but that wotn work if your sitting there feeling sh!t about yourself people can see that a mile off and just plain walk away.

Most people out there have lame lifestyles they want to hang out with someone fun and cool so they can lighten their moods, you improove your life and be happy with what you have and things change, people will want to be around you.

 

[bossdog]

some girls are just wierd. they will do stuff that will have you scratching your head and questioning yourself. my advice to you is to move on. dont think about her.