"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Need help from all DJuan whether this girl is interested in me or not.

Does she likes me?

  • Yes

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Maybe

    Votes: 3 50.0%
  • No

    Votes: 3 50.0%

  • Total voters
    6

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myself : i'm a 28 year old chinese, had 2 ex-gfs which broke up because all of them went back to their ex-bf. some phobia in dating girls, pretty sucessful in my own business right now, quiet or shy type of guy.

target : 24 year old chinese girl, a teacher and a christian. she loves little kids, doesn't smoke or flirt, broke up with her bf 6 months ago (3 years relationship) because he was cheating on her, did told me she still love him and the ex-bf now want to get back to her although she doesn't want to go back to him.

Scenario : about 4 days ago, one of my fren invited me to have a drink with this lady which we actually met in a bar last time as she was a mutual friend of my friends. Coincidently she was teaching some language which i wanted to learn to further my business oversea, so i decided to join the drink and get her to be my tutor. We went and picked her up and had alot of chat that night and fun. Somehow she got me attracted to her because she's beautiful, smart, multi-talented, kind hearted and basically just met all my criteria for my perfect woman. Well after dropping her back home, she later send me a sms saying it was nice meeting me again and she will arrange the time for my class.

The next day, i send her a msg asking whether she wanna go out with me and my friends to the same bar again. She agreed and even asked me to pick her up afterwork. Well after we reach the pub i start mixing with my friends, but she most of them time wasn't around with me as she got some friends around too. Later on she told me one of the friend was drunked and was very worried about her. Anyway after the party, she say she was hungry and i drove her to supper which my other friends followed too. After dropping her home, she send me a phone msg asking if i have reach home safely or not and saying she had a great time with me.

On the 2nd day, i muster up my courage again and call her again for another party session in a club with my friends and dinner b4 that. She agrees and i was suppose to pick her up in the evening time. Somehow during the afternoon while i was shopping with a few friends in one of the mall, she called me and ask where i am. I told her i was in this mall, and she say what a coincidence because 2 of my close friend(they are not my competitors) are coming over to pick her up to same place too. So we meet there and i go walk with her while my other friends does their own shopping. Later on, my 2 other friends left and i went on diner with her and a couple of other friends. During the party session, i notice again that she doesn't seem to come close to me nor talk much with me too. I wasn't happy of course, because one of a friend of mine start showing interests on her and talk wif her all nite and she too responded to him. I try to control my unhappiness and just played cool whole nite. I think it's partly my fault as i dun really know how to talk much and that's when i start to know i am really falling for her more now. Well later on after i send her home again, she send me a phone msg again asking me to drive safely and thanked me again. I replied her msg and start telling her how she's suprising me with her all sort of hidden talents(she can sing beautifuly) and compliments her. Well she replied and say i am a very nice guy and god bless me, coz i can sing too lol.

Oh yea, because it was very late after the party another gal followed our car and went to stay in her place. So the next day, i offered to pick the other girl up as an excuse to see her and give her a little small gift (a cd with songs which i did told her i wanna give it to her during phone msg replys). Well i was pretty dissapoint because she didn't came down with the other girl, bcoz she says she got sumthing to do and she looked messy so didn't want to come down n meet me up. Later on the evening, she suddenly msg me and ask what i am doing as she was doing some shopping with her sis at a nearby shopping complex near my place. I offered to drive her home coz they were taking cabs but later on she told me didnt' want to bother me. She did msg me when she got back home safely and another gnite msg.

So here i am now, wondering what shall be my next move and i am really curious to know if she's interested in me or not with all this hints or i am just over-fantasise? I really really starts to like her and i do miss her now. After the few nights with her i found out that we shares alot of commons, like we both share the same horoscope taurus, we love music, singing, travelling, beaches, romantics and etc. Please guide me in how to win her heart? Or at least how to know if she likes me too? I think both of us are quite shy so we don't talk much in phone, but most of the time she is the one who send msges to me first. Thanks in advance and may god bless u all.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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To the moderators, i am so sorry for didn't go through the first post u made about newbie making posts like this. It's 5.30am and could say i have been searching for answers for my questions the whole night from uncountable websites. Really apologise for my mistake and to anyone who i did annoyed.
 

OddTech

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Get out of your shyness! Be a MAN! Make a move already, regardless if she is interested or not. The only way to know is if you do SOMETHING! Take her by the arm, seduce her, kiss her... hey, didn't you say you're a romantic?

And read the DJ Bible!
 

Walden

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Ah the same advice for getting over heartbreak still rings true.
Go out and (say it with me now) "F*** ten other women".
 

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after goin thru the bible the whole day, i think i understood now. tonite i'll give my best shot and do something about it. if it doesn't work out, NEXT. :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Anaconda

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Why is there always a "tail" every times you go out with her? Go out with her alone to develop intimmacy; you can bring your friends later for fun when you already have a strong bond with her.

Wouldn't it be easier if you just pick up the phone and call her rather than sitting there 15 minutes to type up a message?

Don't you have a business to take care? Why are you going out with her everyday?

You have been kicked out of her "maybe" catagory when you voluntarily become her driver, offer to give her friend a ride and such...that is TOO NICE as in looser.

NO GIFT for her until she gives you a gift first. When she has feelings for you, she'll give you some kinda gifts. If you give her a gift before she has feelings for you, it's very easy for you to be classified into a TOO NICE or LOOSER catagory.

It might be too late now but just give it a try as a practice. You need to back off, you're all over her. Next time you ask her out, use the phone and cut the tail. Spend you freetime on your business and reading the bible.
 

DJ_Dork

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I'd go with Oddtech and Walden. Stop being shy, meet other girls and bang them of possible. When a girl puts you in friends status (whether temp or perm) - look elsewheres but keep her in mind.
 
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