"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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need help forgetting this chick

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ok guys and girls need some help.
there's this girl that i cant stop thinking about. she is hot,funny,smart, and the list goes on and on and on. i see her about 3 times a week. the problem....im hardcore sprung over her.
everything was going good in my life: i just turned 18, got my truck, got a good part time job, heading into my senior year...and you get the point. everything was going right for me all at once. now this girl, i been seeing her around for the past 3 years but up until lately i started talking to her and now i cant get her outa my mind. i took the whole week off last week because i couldn't do anything. i didn't go to football practice, i didn't eat for like 50 hours straight and i didn't sleep for like 2 days straight. i cannot stop thinking of her at all.

the reason i need to stop: because i can never be with her. there's the couple of problems: im 5'6 and she is about 6'2. she is a black girl and im pretty sure she is into black guys...and im a white dude. right now, moving away, or finding someone else isnt an option. please don't give me the adice there's plenty of fish in the sea....i need reall adive so i can go back to living my life.

i never experienced anything like this before, i been sprung before but this is a whole new level.........how do i get over this. i need to loose my feeling for her like right now. any advice?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Five To One

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calidude04 said:
i didn't eat for like 50 hours straight and i didn't sleep for like 2 days straight. i cannot stop thinking of her at all.
Been there and done that. It sucks i know.

1)Skipping football practice didnt help the situation, exersise is actually a good outlet. Go for a run or lift some weights, something that will push your body and get your blood flowing. It doesnt need to be that intense, it could be for just 15 minutes. You will honestly feel more relaxed, be able to eat some and sleep a little better.

2)The next thing you need to do is game some girls. The more the better because it will give your mind other girls to think about. You dont need to like the girl, just have a fun conversation with her. Although hooking up is obviously going to help you get over this faster than just casual conversations.

3)Go out with your friends, it doesnt matter what you do, as long as your not alone. That was the big mistake I made, I shut myself in my house and left my mind to keep me company.

So there you have it; some light exersise, create some new relationships with some girls, and dont let yourself become anti-social during this hardship.


But it wont be instant, time is the last factor. Time heals all things.
And remember to enjoy your life, enjoy all your emotions, embrace the saddness and the frustration and the heartache.

People dont appriciate the rollercoaster ride of emotions that life gives you. The highs and lows is what makes life so much fun.
 

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Cliches are cliches for a reason...They're often true...and the reason why they're cliches are cause they're overused...because tehy're true..

THERE ARE MORE WOMEN IN THE SEA AND MANY MORE ON LAND...AND PERHAPS A FEW IN THE SKY..

One thing i have noticed about myself and others guys...Oneitis, which is what you have, only infests one's life when he is not getting enough action...THAT'S THE MAIN REASON...I had the same issue as you..after a girl for years...then she talks to me...i get too excited...bang bang it's over...nothing happens and that's the end of it..

I purused other women, many at the same time, and i eventually got over her..now, the only times i think about her are when someone mentions her name, or when i talk about her on this forum answering questions about oneitis...trust me...what you need to do is go after more women...you have to get more action...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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yes...trust me...

simply start talking to girls that you haven't met before and the ones you already know...then begin to hang out with them more...nothing serious...just have fun

with the help of this site...you'll slowly gain technique and understand how to escalate better, which is quite easy actually....then you'll have a much more balanced life..
 

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well guys today i made progress, now before i go on im pretty sure tomorrow im going to wake up all emo but today is a different story.


today i was all thinking of her all day and 4:00 o clock rolled around(30 min before football practice starts) and i had that"i dont wana go anywhere or do anything feeling" but i went anyways because i dont want to loose my spot on the team. as soon as i got to practice i forgot all about her, i was all pumped up today with my friends and the coaches motivating us just whooping ass out there. as soon as i got home i actually dint think of her at all.

now i know i said tomorrow i will probably go back to being all emo and stuff but today is a different story, like really different as in if she was to come here right now and knock on my door i would just look out the window and not even get the door and just go back to playing my 360.

the reason i shared all that with yall: for future reference if any of you ever cant get over a girl.
 
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