Need help forgetting a girl

[AFK Protector]

Hi, I'm new to the forum, but for the past two weeks I've read a lot. I must be the biggest AFC out there, but I'm willing to change that. The first step, correct my if I'm wrong, is to develop a lifestyle that I'm comfortable with.....but to do that, I need to forget about this girl I've gone after for a year or two.

Yes, I know. A year or two of a school oriented relationship. I'm seriously caught up with her, but recently I've decided that I need to cut my losses and go out and find others. The only thing standing in my way are old memories and those few times that were either taunts/teasing or true affection(doubt it, but it doesn't matter. I'm dropping her ). But typing this and thinking this is easy. I get soft after we hang out for a while and it's back to GO. So help me come up with soem ways to forget about her. Permanently. I've been busy with working out and school so, that's helping a little bit, but if anyone has had something like this happen and solved it, or if you know how to deal with this extremely AFC like syndrome. Help me. Thanks in advance.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Do you spend a lot of time with this girl? If Yes, avoid it.

If you did not get involved with this girl, it should be fairly easy to forgot her, what memories could you possibly have? Good convos about you being an emotional tampon?

 

[AFK Protector]

Yea, exactly. Memories of my emotional tamponess. Uh, I think...nono, I KNOW it's one sided. So....yea, I guess I just won't pay any attention to her for a few weeks and I'll get used to it. I've tried it before, but she's always sensed it or something and started getting at close and personal. But have no fear. I have my trusty mission statement. Success is imminent. It must be. I'll check back with you guys in a few weeks.

 

[LikRetsam]

The only cure is more chicks. You will get caught up with more chicks and forget about her. Trust me.
You want her but you dont need her.

 

[AFK Protector]

I've got something going. I've resolved to ignore her. I mean, who needs her anyways. I'm the one who she relies upon for stuff. I'll go buy a dog if I want a friend. All she does is leech of me for stuff. Screw that. I'm through and tired of this ridiculous stuff she's piling on me. Yea, it may sound like I'm ranting, but I'll report back with my progress and you all can slap me silly if I go back. Don't let me go back.

 

[California Love]

Don't take anymore **** from her. Dont treat her like dirt, but make sure she understands that she cant use you. After this, she'll respect you more, and may even develop an attraction for you. In the meantime, find other people to talk to - guys and girls alike. Find other girls to invest your interest in and practice your communication skills with them.

 

[AFK Protector]

Thank you. That gives me a lot of hope California. I'm trying to be the Alpha-male, but how can I expect others to like me when I don't even like myself? It can't be done. It's like taking a shower in napalm.

 

[Nightspark]

yeah just ignore her or tell her not to use u... and just say no to her really... you'll need to seriously practice that one little word... or else you'll be like this for a long long time...

i guess just be extremly busy and get more girls! =)

good luck dude and remember U dont need her... but she probably needs u, but as an emotional tampon... just send her back a little tell her urr not that person anymore... hope this helps

 

[LikRetsam]

Power to you Homie, You've just freed yourself of the cage YOU set upon yourself.

 

[AFK Protector]

Yep, thanks a lot guys. I'll let you know how it goes.

 

[AFK Protector]

OK....new development. I've decided not to put up with her BS anymore and a few of my friends decided the same thing while we were online....but then like 2 of my buds start saying how I have the hots for her and stuff even though she's got a BF. I said, "nah, she's got a BF. I don't need her." So....just when I'm starting to make some progress, some weird thing, like this, happens. It turns out my buddies were only joking and wanted to scare me, but they know how I felt...and I need to convince them otherwise. What's the best way?

1)Never mention her while with them.
2)Stick to the mission statement and go on with my life.
3)Both 1 and 2
4)<insert option here>

EDIT: OMG I'm being an AFC again....over analyzing....screw it. I'm thinking too much.

 

[AFK Protector]

Ok, today she was online and asked me for "what homework was due" since school starts tomorrow. I told her to check her assignment notebook. She tells me to list them. I said, "don't you write your HW down?" She says "nope." I said, "then I'd better teach you a lesson and not tell you." She says, "ok, but just tell me this one time." I say, "that's like letting a murderer saying, 'ok, just lemme go this one time.'"

Then she leaves. How did I do? Too harsh? Am I starting to become less AFC/*****-ish? I think I did rather well.

 

[Sammo]

That will do, as long as you un-attatched yourself and your starting to improve. Then nothing else is important.

Now, start lifting weights, get a tan, get a haircut, get more confident, learn to be funny, learn to talk to people, make more friends, and enjoy life!

 

[Kraken]

Ok, today she was online and asked me for "what homework was due" since school starts tomorrow. I told her to check her assignment notebook. She tells me to list them. I said, "don't you write your HW down?" She says "nope." I said, "then I'd better teach you a lesson and not tell you."

That's a start. Need any more help forgetting her? Well..2 years of chasing, and you have shi* to show for it. If anything you should be pissed off at this girl, she's used you as her little doormat for 2 years while you could of been macking on some other girls and learning the game.

Now stop trying to seek everyone's approval for everything you do, just get rid of this b!tch and go take a look at the other 3 billion women on this planet.

Good luck.

 

[R3N3G4D3]

Your problem is that although you're trying you still can't forget her and get that "I don't care about her" attitude. Bsicly if she asks you for a favor just tell her that you're too busy or something or some other bs, or just tell her that you don't feel like doing it. But don't constantly keep asking others if what you did is the right thing. Believe that it is! You can't change what you already have done, so don't think about it too much. The more you try to think about what you did to that girl and if it was the right thing, the more subcoincious signals you're sending to yourself that you still care about her. So just do what you would have done if someone else who's not a close friend would have asked you for a favor, don't necessarily try to be an ass and say no to girls all the time. I for example, let others copy my homework, but I also copy homework from others half of the time. And also as for your excuse that you told to your friends about why you don't like her anymore, remember, you shouldn't not like girls because of the BF they have, you need another reason. You don't need her BFs approval. And just because you like someone doesn't mean that they're the one. Think of this like of cars, if someone has the keys to a Ferrari, you can't get it. But you don't need THAT Ferrari, cuz you can go get another one, the only difference is that with cars you pay once for the car and you're all set, girls keep leeching money from you ALL the time.

Now, like some already said, the best way to forget a girl is to find some other girl who is better than the first girl. Now, to see that some other girl is better, you have to let your oneitis go and see that the world doesn't revolve around that girl. There are tons of other ways all of which can be just as effective, hanging out with your buddies, going to the movies, going to some public place (where you can also practice your DJ skills), watching TV, even playing computer games (although that doesn't help your social life much). Basicly just do something that's fun to you, whatever that is, something so fun you forget about other stuff. And then the less you think of her, the easier it becomes to think less of her.

 

[AFK Protector]

Yea, you're right. Why I was a 8-10 year old AFC I liked some girls and thought I was gonna marry them. I guess it's the same thing....wow, I haven't realized that before. Now I don't even remember their names.

Thanks for the tips/support guys. Overthinking is my weakness. I must stop. Great car analogy RENEGADE.

 

[AFK Protector]

Ok, here's how it is. I don't really want a physical relationship with her right now. I'm just trying to get chicks to know me as a confident person and not just a book. I'm not really into getting into their pants. That's for after marriage. So, I dunno if what I'm doing is all for a good thing or not considering my goal.