Need help for a friend

[backbreaker]

I know this guy who when we first met, he was really really crazy about this girl. he did all the traditional AFC things. called. left messages, etc. flowers, presents, poems the whole bit

he got shot down. bad. he got hurt.


and i'm seeing before my own very eyes.. he's doing the same thing to another girl. however this time, he won't even tell the girl that he likes her. he's cray about her. it's all he talks about. but now he won't even put himself out there.


it's really sad. it's like the previous **** behavior by the old girl just sucked the life out of him and he's petrified to do anything.


I'm ont even making an observation I don't know what to do lol. It's not even about moving on if he moved on right now he'd do the same thing.


and ****, i mean i can't even really blame him. women are *****es in their 20s.


anyone got any advice on what i can do to help him stop the negative loop of rejection?

 

[Kailex]

Let him learn on his own. Just be ready to help him when he does ask you for advice.

Otherwise, not much you can do. Sometimes you just have to let people make their own mistakes.

Other than that, you just can't come at him hard... sometimes people just aren't ready to get deprogrammed from one day to the next.

 

[MtnMan]

I think the standard sosuave advice applies for your friend.

Yes, women are b!tches! I still feel pain from my ex, I still feel pain from girls that I have dated and lost after a couple weeks.

The only advice I have is get back on the horse, d@amnit! Yes women can be cruel and unusual and hideously selfish. Accept it, and get back on the horse. There are decent girls out there, but the only way to find them is to get out there and get kicked in the nuts a few times. It gets easier with time.

:rockon:

 

[Bible_Belt]

Nice guys need to go fvck wh0res until they realize that all women are wh0res.

 

[AmIAFC]

You know, backbreaker, I'm surprised in you. As a long-time member and a casual observer of the forum, I've taken some interest in a lot of your topics and find most of your points spot on. This one, however, comes as a shock.

On a number of occasions, you've emphasized the need for individual struggle and hardship as prerequisites for personal growth. Your friend is facing personal hardship, and in this case it is not in your place to interfere in this delicate process of growth and understanding. By doing so, you risk jeopardizing and stunting his evolution.

Let me figure it out for himself.