need help first date ever

[muffinstuffin]

hey guys,

so i just got out of a long term relationship and am trying to find some new girls. i am currently a college student. i met a hot girl at a party last weekend and got her number after talking for about an hour with her and using typical don juan attitude.

my question for you guys is: now what do i do? i would like to convert this girl into a long term relationship and on paper it is definitely possible, but i dont understand the details.

when should i contact her again and what should I say? should i text or call? what would be some good date ideas in a typical college town? i would prefer alcohol involved, would prefer avoiding cheesy movie and dinner type dates, and would prefer some sort of activity to limit any possible awkward small talk.

also how long should the actual date last and should i offer to walk her home even if it is far (seems it could lead to an awkward goodbye if i did walk her back)? i was thinking about asking her to do something this Thursday

also i would like to ensure this leads to more interaction between us and eventually a relationship.

please share your wisdom! :rockon:

 

[COD]

TEXT FIRST............THEN CALL.........SET SOMETHING UP ON THE PHONE.........THEN THE DATE...........ACTION DATES HAVE 3 PARTS

Three components that should propel you forward are 1) BUFFER ZONE (personal space)

2) KINO (touching)

3) BOUNCE POTENTIAL (moving to another location together). B.P.- don’t underestimate a venue change as the mere appearance of being a couple works in your favor.

Dates take on many forms, various criteria effect success, including type of dates;

THE INTERVIEW-this is where you meet for a short duration, sit across from each other and do the info exchange. Great if there’s no attraction, sucks if it’s one sided as this is an easy escape. It’s difficult to escalate at a coffee shop, restaurant, Kino is not congruent, appears gimmicky. Bounce Potential is contingent on timing and how attracted she is towards you. Buffer zone is minimal and may hinder your success.

MEET ME AT-another popular version of a date is the old meet me at this bar. Often they are there partying with their friends, co-workers, etc. Great if you are a master socializer, bad you expected to see only her. Her friends will size you up in an instant, you won’t have her undivided attention, there may be tons of outside influences (alcohol, loud music, dim lighting, smoke, her friends pulling her on the dance floor, competition from other men, crowded, cover charge, etc). Kino is possible (dancing, whispering in her ear, quick smooch, etc) B. P. is hard to pull off due to her friends and how long she has been there, not to mention that you must have a place to bounce to. B. Z. is tangible as you can vibe with her friends, dance, interact with people, walk around, etc

BUY MY AFFECTION-some women insist on an old fashioned date where the man always pays, gets dressed up, etc. Great if she is into you, sucks when the bill arrives and there is zero indicators of interest. You may never see this chic again so why fork over your hard-earned money to a complete stranger. Save it for when you are dating. Kino during dinner is good, buffer zone is the food/drinks, waitress, B.P. is possible if she shows IOI's.

ACTION DATES-now these types of dates are ideal. You are not just there to meet her, you are doing something together (playing pool, mini-golfing, air hockey, etc) The activity acts as a safety net AKA Buffer Zone.. You are not seated directly across from them, the tension tends to be a little lighter as the focus is presumed on the activity and not directly on them. Touching is natural , kino is possible as you can show them how to stand, hold the stick, position them, high five for a great shot, etc. Bounce potential is attainable. A good tip would be to play for favorites……you could start off with playing for a dollar, then move up to hugs ‘n’ kisses….if you are really bold and she is adventurous increase the bets. Loser has to give the winner a rock star kiss, back massage, oral, etc.

Your goal is to associate having a good time with you. When you are seated across from one another in a public place like a coffeehouse it can be stressful, adversarial, there is very little personal space. It’s a lot easier to bounce, kino, redirect focus on the Buffer zone on action dates.

 

[Kal0051]

that's a great explanation of the various kinds of dates there COD. For a first date an action date is probably the best.

 

[Daydream Engineer]

TEXT FIRST............THEN CALL.........SET SOMETHING UP ON THE PHONE.........THEN THE DATE...........ACTION DATES HAVE 3 PARTS

Three components that should propel you forward are 1) BUFFER ZONE (personal space)

2) KINO (touching)

The "Action" Hero Always gets the girl!

3) BOUNCE POTENTIAL (moving to another location together). B.P.- don’t underestimate a venue change as the mere appearance of being a couple works in your favor.

The "Action" Hero Always gets the girl!

Dates take on many forms, various criteria effect success, including type of dates;

THE INTERVIEW-this is where you meet for a short duration, sit across from each other and do the info exchange. Great if there’s no attraction, sucks if it’s one sided as this is an easy escape. It’s difficult to escalate at a coffee shop, restaurant, Kino is not congruent, appears gimmicky. Bounce Potential is contingent on timing and how attracted she is towards you. Buffer zone is minimal and may hinder your success.


The "Action" Hero Always gets the girl!

MEET ME AT-another popular version of a date is the old meet me at this bar. Often they are there partying with their friends, co-workers, etc. Great if you are a master socializer, bad you expected to see only her. Her friends will size you up in an instant, you won’t have her undivided attention, there may be tons of outside influences (alcohol, loud music, dim lighting, smoke, her friends pulling her on the dance floor, competition from other men, crowded, cover charge, etc). Kino is possible (dancing, whispering in her ear, quick smooch, etc) B. P. is hard to pull off due to her friends and how long she has been there, not to mention that you must have a place to bounce to. B. Z. is tangible as you can vibe with her friends, dance, interact with people, walk around, etc



The "Action" Hero Always gets the girl!

BUY MY AFFECTION-some women insist on an old fashioned date where the man always pays, gets dressed up, etc. Great if she is into you, sucks when the bill arrives and there is zero indicators of interest. You may never see this chic again so why fork over your hard-earned money to a complete stranger. Save it for when you are dating. Kino during dinner is good, buffer zone is the food/drinks, waitress, B.P. is possible if she shows IOI's.


The "Action" Hero Always gets the girl!

ACTION DATES-now these types of dates are ideal. You are not just there to meet her, you are doing something together (playing pool, mini-golfing, air hockey, etc) The activity acts as a safety net AKA Buffer Zone.. You are not seated directly across from them, the tension tends to be a little lighter as the focus is presumed on the activity and not directly on them. Touching is natural , kino is possible as you can show them how to stand, hold the stick, position them, high five for a great shot, etc. Bounce potential is attainable. A good tip would be to play for favorites……you could start off with playing for a dollar, then move up to hugs ‘n’ kisses….if you are really bold and she is adventurous increase the bets. Loser has to give the winner a rock star kiss, back massage, oral, etc.

The "Action" Hero Always gets the girl!

Your goal is to associate having a good time with you. When you are seated across from one another in a public place like a coffeehouse it can be stressful, adversarial, there is very little personal space. It’s a lot easier to bounce, kino, redirect focus on the Buffer zone on action dates.

Remember: The "Action" Hero Always gets the girl! Azudragon approved haha + rep