"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

need help changing rep ><

Junaid

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 18, 2006
Messages
42
Reaction score
0
ok im pretty sure right now in skewl my rep is basicly as a loner non-social kinda guy

usually with people i already know i cant be myself for some reason cause i think im to used to bein anti social or something.. being myself is out of my comfort zone :/
also another weird thing is that im usually myself WITH NEW PEOPLE all the time

anyway so i was wondering how do u get rid of this "non social" rep thing from peoples minds???

it feels like all of a sudden talking way more and stuff whud be weird.. plus changing like that is rele hard to do .. atlaest for me, maybe im a ***** o_O
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

NeW2TheGame

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 20, 2005
Messages
48
Reaction score
0
School

anyway so i was wondering how do u get rid of this "non social" rep thing from peoples minds???
You can't just get rid of it, you gradually let them see a different side of you, and their perception of you will change.

it feels like all of a sudden talking way more and stuff whud be weird..
Why would it be weird?

plus changing like that is rele hard to do .. atlaest for me
Then don't change.


Bottomline is, it is all about attitude.
 

ascalon

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 14, 2006
Messages
52
Reaction score
0
Everybody start from the begining.The change cannot be sudden.Since I remember myself I practice one very useful technique(useful for me). When i meet someone usually i don't speak a lot.I smile ,laugh and answer people's questions.After a while I begin to "uncover" myself by starting to ask some questions.After 2-3 days I come across with the same person,I tell jokes and behave friendly.

Uncover yourself gradually,don't hurry up,it's up to you! The more time you spend changing,the less mistakes you will make :)

Be happy,and don't permit the circumstance let you down!
 

dot

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 26, 2006
Messages
288
Reaction score
1
ascalon said:
Everybody start from the begining.The change cannot be sudden.Since I remember myself I practice one very useful technique(useful for me). When i meet someone usually i don't speak a lot.I smile ,laugh and answer people's questions.After a while I begin to "uncover" myself by starting to ask some questions.After 2-3 days I come across with the same person,I tell jokes and behave friendly.

Uncover yourself gradually,don't hurry up,it's up to you! The more time you spend changing,the less mistakes you will make :)

Be happy,and don't permit the circumstance let you down!
meh it's better to just treat people as friends all the time anyway. of course you'll like them more later and whatever but just consider them friends
 

Bunk 040

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 15, 2004
Messages
191
Reaction score
1
Age
38
Junaid said:
usually with people i already know i cant be myself for some reason cause i think im to used to bein anti social or something.. being myself is out of my comfort zone :/
If you cant be yourself then who can you be, just be you and don't worry about what nobody else think. If you got something to say, say it, if you dont then fukk it. Just speak yo mind at all times.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

LegendBoy

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 10, 2006
Messages
382
Reaction score
2
Location
Australia
Okay I am in my last year of school. Nearly finished now firstly you can not just become the coolest mofuka there is, it just don't happen.

My group of buds I guess they feel inferior to the rest of the boys in our year. So we do have sufficient respect, and I'll be honest most of them are ****heads they don't like the other guys. It's going to be hard to move up especialy if you are deep into high school. But I am friends with almost every male, you will find out the guys you think are fags not all of them are that bad. Usually conversation will come across easier if you's have a common interest eg he is kicking a soccer ball and you say hey how long you been playing for and you's starting kicking it around.

Its common knowledge not everyone is going to like you, **** there is more people that hate me then like me. Call me arrogant, upmyself lol. But who gives a fucck?

Just immerse yourself into what you want get to know the people around you. Make the changes gradual or else it will come across as WTF as well.
 

Steg

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 6, 2006
Messages
110
Reaction score
0
#1, stop trying. #2 dont be bullied. The rest should come naturally but remember than people may huish up at first when you'r around.
 

Junaid

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 18, 2006
Messages
42
Reaction score
0
totally forgot about this post...
and actually totally forgot about being "popular" or w/e

right now i get a good amount of attention from girls but i think i need to push a lil more im WAY to chill right now

but thats for later... iv learned taking it fast=bad lol

right now honestly i dont think me rep is bad, most of the haters i dont see anymore.. and iv learned there just haters, they hate cause they jealus and insecure (some have some SERIOUS insecruity issues holy ****...)

anyway to all other ppl.. just take it ez and when trouble starts.. fight back and ur fine lol
o and get better with witty comebacks.. usually a good comeback is all it takes to come out looking kewler
usually if ppl are being aggresive for no reason i just say ".... calm down stop being retarded" or something and if they continue "stfu and stop wasting my time u insecure peice of ****" just act like ur better then them (which u usually are..) and just walk away while saying something works fine :D
 

TimothyG

New Member
Joined
Oct 11, 2006
Messages
3
Reaction score
0
I've had this problem. I say, find a spot with some people that's out of the way, and just hang out there. Some friends of mine and myself started hanging out by an elavator that is about 25 feet away from the first line of tables...group started out at I'd say five or so, has now grown to 12 or more. :shrugs: Just be whoever you want to be, make that who you are, and be open to new people hangin' out.
 
Top