NEED HELP! Cant seem to get "into things"...

[Big Eee Zee]

I try to be a helpful, contributing member on this board, and now I need you guys to help me. I seem to have a pretty big problem. My GF wants to fvck me pretty bad, and the few times I've had a chance, it just hasn't worked. I can't seem to get "into it". You know what I mean. This problem completely came outta left field.

Now I know it's all in my head, I don't have a physical problem. I look at pr0n and I know I can do it, just not when it seems to matter. To be fair, the last two times I was pretty drunk, and I blamed it on the alcohol, but I'm not entirely convinced that was it. My girl is def. good looking, she has a nice face, big rack, cute ass etc. It's just that tonight it seemed like my mind was wandering. I couldn't concentrate long enough to do anything. It's just becoming annoying. I've heard that porn can sorta condition you on it, and my tastes run...exotic, so could that be it? What can I do to fix this? My girl's parents are going out of town next week and she has said already that I can't drink, I gotta be sober. I'm just personally not sure if that is the only thing here...

(Also, not sure if it matters, but this will be my first. I was such an AFC before I never stood a chance.)

Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated. Sorry about how frank I was, but this problem has me spooked and I need to fix it.

 

[nishbuk]

Your just nervous. But you shouldn't be...So what if it's your first time. Get into the moment. Just be the playa that you always wanted to be. Don't think you have the moves? ACT LIKE YOU DO GODDAMNIT! YOU ARE A DEMON IN THE SACK! What would a playa do in your situatin? You know how they would act, or at least you have a good idea about what a "Don Juan" would do during sex. So DO THAT. Fake it if you have to, and I think you'll be pleasantly surprised that you're not FAKING at all!
Be sensual, be caring, smile, touch her, run your finger down her neck, to her stomach, to her thighs. Get her into the moment, and I guarantee you'll be there too.

Oh and most important:

Fvck her brains out! (Even with all the sensuality, you have to be willing to do this. )

I think maybe you need to learn how to get into a "sensual state". There is a man by the name of Gunwitch who can help you. Find his material, it's posted here!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=46286

 

[Big Eee Zee]

no no no, thats just it, I AM good in the sack. Even tho I cant seem to get with it, I can still find 101 different ways to get her off. She has already told me this, and it's not that I'm worried about size or anything. I think it was due to alcohol, but I was looking for any other explanations and possible advice. It seems like whenever we hook up it's hard for me to be turned on by her which doesn't make sense, she is everything I wanted. I'm tempted to tell her to go down on me next time this happens, have her make me get with it.

 

[manuva]

Stop wanking. I'll bet my next lay that will fix your problem. After a week of not blowing your load you wouldn't be able to get turned off even if you wanted to.

 

[Big Eee Zee]

Originally posted by manuva
Stop wanking. I'll bet my next lay that will fix your problem. After a week of not blowing your load you wouldn't be able to get turned off even if you wanted to.

sounds like a plan.