Need help asking this girl out....

[irocknike23]

Hey fellas, first of I just want to say I been in this forums quite a while, and while I may not post a lot, reading your material really has helped me a lot in the time I been in here..


It really helped me get laid but I think im ready to settle down for a while...

Its strange because im usually the #1 person against that, BUT I really found a girl I like...

So here is the story. I met this girl at a party, me and her have a mutual friend. We talked for a while, but she had to leave early(had to wake up the next day for something)
So the next day I get her number from my friend. We hit it off texting back n forth.
I took her to the movies the same week and we saw cabin in the woods(great movie)
on the drive home, when we get to her house, she did not get out and right away I sensed that she wanted to make out...

Here is the problem I made......(and omfg this was a terrible mistake)
We sat in the car for 2 hours....and I did not make 1 move....and she made it obvious AF that she wanted to make out

Yes I know im about to get cussed out for that one....guys I feel REALLY bad for that one. I couldn't sleep that whole night because it was sinking in to me how much I pussied out and what an opportunity I had. IDK guys, I dont know why but I was just nervous AF the whole time and very tense...I felt like I was glued to my seat and I could not make 1 move

However....the next day she hits me up. We start going back n forth again texting. I get her to hang out with me again. We go to the beach, we spend about 6 hours there just going in and out of shops, eating...etc.

She text me the same night telling me she had a lot of fun.



The thing is I am getting a vibe she really likes me(she always hit me up first)

However, I have a feeling that the ***** stunt I pulled in her driveway greatly closed my opportunity of hope I had to ask her out.


So far, we have been talking for 12 days(just a little under 2 weeks)

I dont want to take too long asking her out BUT at the same time I dont want to rush into it......what is the right time frame?????


And the fact that I like her makes me very tense and nervous around her. Im really not physical enough with her(you are supposed to get physical with a girl when you guys are hanging out right?)

And is it a good thing or a bad thing to let her know I like her(i have not done this yet)

Any help would be appreciated

 

[Iceberg]

It really helped me get laid but I think im ready to settle down for a while...

Its strange because im usually the #1 person against that, BUT I really found a girl I like...

Well, how can you decide whether or not you should settle down with this girl before you've even dated her? You took her to the movies, you've been talking for 12 days, you never kissed her, but you're talking about settling down.

It's not bad for you to like a girl. But it IS bad for you to declare her relationship-worthy before you've even really done anything with her. Let's be real here....you dont KNOW her. This is the classic definition of putting a girl on a pedestal. You have no idea what she'd be like in a romantic relationship, but you've already declared her worthy of one.

Here is the problem I made......(and omfg this was a terrible mistake)
We sat in the car for 2 hours....and I did not make 1 move....and she made it obvious AF that she wanted to make out

Well, you know the problem. So you know how to correct it.

So far, we have been talking for 12 days(just a little under 2 weeks)

I dont want to take too long asking her out BUT at the same time I dont want to rush into it......what is the right time frame?????

What do you mean "asking her out"? It's 2012, my friend. You don't ask a girl to "go steady". You go out with a girl for a fun night, and then you go for the kiss. Let her be the one to ask you about relationship status, "titles" and "are we dating?" Girls like that. They dont want you to be chasing them, begging them to be your girlfriend. It eliminates the challenge for them, and ultimately bores girls.

So, it's not about asking her out. It's about doing the things you've already been doing....except being physical with her by kissing, etc.

You already have her hanging out with you. It's up to you to make a move. It's about actions, not words.

 

[irocknike23]

So you suggest that the next time I hang out with her I make it my #1 goal to make out, and leave it as that?

And let her come after me?