"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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CORVETTE06

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3 Weeks ago i met a girl online. I hung out wit her 3 times since then. she asked me to be her date to her brothers wedding. (2 weeks notice, its tomorrow)

Am i supposed to bring a gift?

im not cheap or anything, i just dont wanna look weird bringing a gift if im not supposed to.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jay Jay

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Don't worry about a gift unless you are feeling really inspired.

Its cool. You're a guy.

JJ
 

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CORVETTE06 said:
3 Weeks ago i met a girl online. I hung out wit her 3 times since then. she asked me to be her date to her brothers wedding. (2 weeks notice, its tomorrow)

Am i supposed to bring a gift?

im not cheap or anything, i just dont wanna look weird bringing a gift if im not supposed to.
Why did you agree to go to a wedding as her date after only 3 dates?? what are you her boyfriend??!! I can tell you never been to a wedding before because you are suppose to bring a check as a gift (about $100).

At weddings you don't show up for free because every extra person costs money for catering not to mention it is expected that you bring money as a gift. I just hope that she doesn't think that you are going to pay for her as well (make that $200 check).
 
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No kid - absolutely not!!!! No gift is expected or wanted!!!! Enjoy the free beer and food - this is a man's paradise (it would be better if a virgin was involved)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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What needs to happen, is the both of you need to bring one gift together. Call her up, and ask what she's bringing. Receptions always have plenty of food, so you shouldn't have a problem chipping in $30 for something.

Yeah, showing up at a wedding without a gift is widely considered a rude thing to do. If you care about being rude, and it seems that you do, chip in on something.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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it all depends if u have had sex with her yet or not.......my guess is u havent even kissed her, right?

if u are fvcking her, then u can bring a card or somethin, but otherwise, dont worry bout it
 

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been to a wedding before because you are suppose to bring a check as a gift (about $100).
where the hell do you live when the people all bring a check as a gift? I got some money, but it was the EXCEPTION rather than the rule, and it was never more than $50.

Most people bring actual gifts. But most of the gifts are handled at the bridal shower. You only get gifts at your wedding from those who never made it to that.

Anyways, I would suggest backing out of going to a wedding as a date so early on in a relationship.

But if you don't, then give the couple a card. You don't need to put money in it, because you haven't known them that long, but a simple card is nice and thoughtful.
 

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The gift is her responsibility. It might be different if you've been together with her for a long time and her brother knows you well, but that's not the case. Just go and have a good time. Shake the the poor bast@rd's hand and wish him well, that's all.
 

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The girl is showing you off to her friends/family this is a good sign, however it doesn't mean you should show up with gifts. Just be respectful and be a man in front of everyone else. Don't worry about the kissing part, let it come when it comes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No, you don't need to bring a gift. You are her date and you have likely never met the people getting married. As her guest, her gift covers you both.
 

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get a card they probably wont even notice if you brough something or not its not like u have met them before.
 
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