"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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NEED HELP ASAP!! NO CONTACT IN 5 DAYS? Does it work?

SteveTheDon

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k well NC and she contacted today text said hey this is my new number how u been blah blah I said I missed ya she said she missed me too and then I told her we should talk tonight she said she had class I said after and she said she had her kids.. so my question is...
even though I only dated her a couple months, how to I get her IL back up so I can at least **** the ***** again?

Just NC again?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SteveTheDon

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UPDATE: so I texted:

LOL at it all.. U SUCK


and she wrote back:

Whats your prob?


So Im gonna NC it and if she texts again late tonight or tomorrow Im gonna write:

Whos This?
 

SteveTheDon

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Im not it seriously happened, I swear.... she contacted me first after u told me to let it die..
 

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I have been 100% honest this whole thread! Now Im asking if I have a chance at all with her, to at least keep her spinning... What do I text back to her last text that said:

Whats your prob?

Anyone? All your suggestions so far have been greatly appreciated and I did get her to contact me however I dont know how to take it from here.. the AFC in me wants to write

well u can come see me or no problem anymore or u said u miss me so come over, u used to find time etc.. but so far I havent responded, should I just NC it for a while and if she writes back tonight or tomorrow be like :whos this? Please anyone?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You need to go NC as in no contact whatsoever. Don't let yourself fall for her again just because she texts you once. You should AT LEAST try to go no contact for 2 weeks. 2 weeks as in, even if she texts or calls, do not respond. No contact means no contact.

If it were me, I'd never speak to this woman again.
 

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k 2 weeks from today... but then do I just message her being like hey or what? Its hard for me to give up on her, cause I really liked her and things were great til her crazy ex started coming around.. I just wanna try to keep her as a fvck buddy and spin her til I found someone new.. thing is the AFC in me says if I dont respond for 2 weeks Im afraid she will just forget about me and its all hard cause I gotta do this sober as Im trying not to drink anymore and got a week sober down.....
 
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