I need some pointers and views over here. Basically, I'm talking to this girl online whom I actually know, but she doesn't know me. Yeah, many have commented I sound like a desperate stalker yada yada but well...anyway, after I started on this site and practicing it's principals, I've been fairly successful with girls out there(as in, not those I meet/know online) but as for this online talk, it's much harder so I'm just trying to move closer and then ask her out. Also with this girl who tugs on the strings of my heart, I start slipping into the AFC abyss now and then. Anywa as I looked back at what happened so far, here's my report:
Mistakes(argh):
1.) Telling too much about myself.
Was actually playing it pretty cool yet warm, but started revealing a tad too much after a few conversations
2.) Sharing too much about stuffs happening around atm.
Like stuffs happening while talking to her, and there was a particularly embarrassing incident I narrated to her about.
3.) Boring with technical stuff.
Just a little bit, would try not to.
4.) Approaching as friend instead of potential lover.
Well, actually I know I have to approach as a "MAN", but I presume I'll probably freak her out since it's an online thing so far.
5.) Too much silence and boring talk.
She initiated some pretty cool topics and I followed up well in the initial conversations, after that it just went way down and became silent or boring.
6.) Appearing as a loser/bummer.
Like sitting around etc. etc.
7.) Mildly trying to impress.
Just mildly.
Planned Rectifications(Need help on how to actually make it happen):
1.) Being more mysterious
2.) Avoid uneccessory talking-more I babble, higher chance of fault.
3.) Moving more intimate-subtly
4.) Show I have goals, ideals and activities in life.
5.) Impress by not impressing.
Sucess(Trying to keep it up):
1.) Sounding funny.
2.) Being intelligent, witty, funny.
Things to do(Need help on how to actually make it happen):
1.) Get her to talk and I listen.
2.) Mirror her while appropriate making us compatible.
3.) Make her feel special while and with me
About the girl:
Well, I figured she doesn't mingle often with males(so I guess her bothering to actually talk to me while doing stuffs online is a good sign) but is seeking(or at least wouldn't mind) a boyfriend. She's pretty hot, with guys hitting on her now and then, but mainly AFCs who took off after she give them the cold treatment.
Actually, it went pretty well originally, I was being a ****y, funny, smart yet mysterious and she was initiating pretty much talk and I was listening and playing it cool with sub-answers. But I slowly found myself slipping into back to AFC state with some pretty bad mistakes. So as I looked back, I compiled this report and seek opinion here. I think it's still salvageable. After my mistakes, she still talks to me, even though it's alot more boring and I get the feeling that it's out of social sake.
Mistakes(argh):
1.) Telling too much about myself.
Was actually playing it pretty cool yet warm, but started revealing a tad too much after a few conversations
2.) Sharing too much about stuffs happening around atm.
Like stuffs happening while talking to her, and there was a particularly embarrassing incident I narrated to her about.
3.) Boring with technical stuff.
Just a little bit, would try not to.
4.) Approaching as friend instead of potential lover.
Well, actually I know I have to approach as a "MAN", but I presume I'll probably freak her out since it's an online thing so far.
5.) Too much silence and boring talk.
She initiated some pretty cool topics and I followed up well in the initial conversations, after that it just went way down and became silent or boring.
6.) Appearing as a loser/bummer.
Like sitting around etc. etc.
7.) Mildly trying to impress.
Just mildly.
Planned Rectifications(Need help on how to actually make it happen):
1.) Being more mysterious
2.) Avoid uneccessory talking-more I babble, higher chance of fault.
3.) Moving more intimate-subtly
4.) Show I have goals, ideals and activities in life.
5.) Impress by not impressing.
Sucess(Trying to keep it up):
1.) Sounding funny.
2.) Being intelligent, witty, funny.
Things to do(Need help on how to actually make it happen):
1.) Get her to talk and I listen.
2.) Mirror her while appropriate making us compatible.
3.) Make her feel special while and with me
About the girl:
Well, I figured she doesn't mingle often with males(so I guess her bothering to actually talk to me while doing stuffs online is a good sign) but is seeking(or at least wouldn't mind) a boyfriend. She's pretty hot, with guys hitting on her now and then, but mainly AFCs who took off after she give them the cold treatment.
Actually, it went pretty well originally, I was being a ****y, funny, smart yet mysterious and she was initiating pretty much talk and I was listening and playing it cool with sub-answers. But I slowly found myself slipping into back to AFC state with some pretty bad mistakes. So as I looked back, I compiled this report and seek opinion here. I think it's still salvageable. After my mistakes, she still talks to me, even though it's alot more boring and I get the feeling that it's out of social sake.
