Okay, me and this girl just broke up yesterday. Her reason was "I can't focus on what's important in my life." She has pets, family, friends and school. She takes all honors classes, but at a regular ninth grade level, while I am taking classes that are at least at a sophomore or junior level, in ninth grade. I also indulge in similar activities that she does. I don't know exactly what to think in this situation. She tells me she cares about me, but that she can't continue a relationship when her work and priorities don't get done. For all I know there are more things here that I probably don't know.
Here's the lay down on the girl. We met about three weeks ago. I felt one of those, "Love at first sight, for a teenager" Kind of feelings and instantly hooked up with her, succesfully taking her out of another friend's hands...But that's not important. She tells me I am what she wants in a relationship, (this is during the relationship, well even after she broke up with me), that I'm nice, sincere, and confident, while not being too ****y or horny. I get this a lot from girls, seeing how at this age they don't necessarily know how to handle a guy who is in fact what is labeled as a "jackass". At least, girls I know don't know how to handle them. Back to the point. We went out for three weeks, talked a lot, hung out a bit, really enjoyed ourself. One night I'm having a rough time, and talking with her. If she wasn't a peer mediator I thought that's where I would have gone wrong, but she is very understanding of rough times and I know that I did not do anything to scare her off. The next day, she calls me, we talk some, and I get off. A little whiles later I call her, and she tells me how she doesn't have nearly the same caring level as I did, and that after taking awhile to make a decision that's best for her, she broke up with me. I, being in complete shock, unprepared, etc, attempted to talk her out of it, compromise, she wouldn't budge. So I told her to call me later, hung up, threw the phone across the room. An hour later she calls back, I tell her it's not a good time, hang up.
Afterwards I take my time to go through the motions, denial, shock, etc, etc. If I had reason to dislike her, it could be so much easier, but she's such a rare find, especially at this point in time. Anyways, after taking long amounts of time to analyze things, and visiting a friend for a few hours to relax, I come home and am given the link to this site. I immediately take a different offense towards my life, change my attitude so that I'm easier to get along with, socially, and at home, doing great. However, I don't know whether I should start dating around again, forget about this girl, wait for her, ignore her, try and just be friends for awhile, I'd appreciate any comments and/or suggestions.
Here's the lay down on the girl. We met about three weeks ago. I felt one of those, "Love at first sight, for a teenager" Kind of feelings and instantly hooked up with her, succesfully taking her out of another friend's hands...But that's not important. She tells me I am what she wants in a relationship, (this is during the relationship, well even after she broke up with me), that I'm nice, sincere, and confident, while not being too ****y or horny. I get this a lot from girls, seeing how at this age they don't necessarily know how to handle a guy who is in fact what is labeled as a "jackass". At least, girls I know don't know how to handle them. Back to the point. We went out for three weeks, talked a lot, hung out a bit, really enjoyed ourself. One night I'm having a rough time, and talking with her. If she wasn't a peer mediator I thought that's where I would have gone wrong, but she is very understanding of rough times and I know that I did not do anything to scare her off. The next day, she calls me, we talk some, and I get off. A little whiles later I call her, and she tells me how she doesn't have nearly the same caring level as I did, and that after taking awhile to make a decision that's best for her, she broke up with me. I, being in complete shock, unprepared, etc, attempted to talk her out of it, compromise, she wouldn't budge. So I told her to call me later, hung up, threw the phone across the room. An hour later she calls back, I tell her it's not a good time, hang up.
Afterwards I take my time to go through the motions, denial, shock, etc, etc. If I had reason to dislike her, it could be so much easier, but she's such a rare find, especially at this point in time. Anyways, after taking long amounts of time to analyze things, and visiting a friend for a few hours to relax, I come home and am given the link to this site. I immediately take a different offense towards my life, change my attitude so that I'm easier to get along with, socially, and at home, doing great. However, I don't know whether I should start dating around again, forget about this girl, wait for her, ignore her, try and just be friends for awhile, I'd appreciate any comments and/or suggestions.