You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Bad advice for the general public right here. It may work for you, but you are the oddball. Maybe you are a genetic freak or a natural athlete, I don't know. But for most people, form is number 1.switch said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Or just lucky so far. He's one bad injury away from keeping his mouth shut.speed dawg said:
550lbs . go weep urself to death.TyTe`EyEz said:
switch said:
Either way, I'd still take the advice of countless experts in the field over an anonymous dude on sosuave. Especially one that condones using bad form. That's comparable to listening to some stupid b1tch who tells you to not get your kids vaccinated. Always take science over random bullsh1t.foreverAFC said:
TyTe`EyEz said:
10%bf,90kgs at 5'8". i think now its 11% since i had some fvcking beer last night and slept at 6 am... i have no idea who chris farley is, although it does ring a bell.foreverAFC said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
i grew up in the UK,did most of my life in london then middle east.TheStig said:
you should start doing a martial art like jiu jitsu or boxingswitch said:
Haha. Are you trying to get him to snap city?!? Don't listen to this guy. Drop the ego, and drop your weight until you have perfect form. Push yourself, but NEVER compromise form.switch said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.