Need assistance on my interrupt muscle

[B-Real]

Ok, this has probably been brought up before in the past, but I can't remember/find it anywhere. But.. here's the scenario

I don't have a hard time talking to women in general. I'm not that shy (thanks to this site) and I like to seize every opportunity that I can to talk to women.

My only problem is finding something to talk about. Let me rephrase that. It's difficult for me to start a conversation with a girl if their is nothing that she is doing that looks interesting.

Like for example today I was in the library at my college. I was minding my own business when a H.B. 7-8.5 walks up and sits two seats down from me. We were on the computers.

Well I wanted to say something to her to start a conversation because I knew their had to be some what of an IL. Reason I say this is because their were more seats available. More seats farther away from me.

So I couldn't think of ANYTHING to say. Like I could have said, "What are you looking at"? But then its like I think that would have been to blatant (sp?) to say because then obviously she knows that I'm hitting on her. Becasuse she has done nothing to try and get my attention.

Also I have never seen this girl before so I could'nt use anything to that nature. Plus, I think that it would have made me look a little desperate or putting her on a pedestal because she has done nothing at all to try and get my attention.

The only reason I think there was a little IL was because she sat two seats down from me and she could have sat anywhere.

Anyways I procrastinated (and kicked myself in the a$$) and when she got up to leave I just said, "you already done?"

So i might have goofed, but thats my question. How do I make myself WANT to interrupt something that she is doing, but not make it to needy-looking?? Even if she is doing nothing spectacular. And I still want to keep my alpha male composure.

 

[Docs]

What are you working on?

How the hell did you not think of that >.<, lol

 

[ethnomethodologist]

lol, you have to test for IL. Keep testing, that is the males first sh!t test.

You see her reading a book and your mind is blank? I don't think so, if your mind really was blank, you wouldn't be looking at her... you wouldn't be afraid... you wouldn't be kicking yourself for not going through with it today!

:nervous: What if she gets AnGryyyyy?!?!?:box:

She won't... you wouldn't want to talk to her if you thought she was suddenly going to scream and stab somebody

What kept running through my head when you were rambling there was... You just say whats on your mind. If she doesn't find it interesting, than you just found your biggest roadblock to success.

Want to get over the fear of 'interrupting'? Do a BC, interrupt people when they are in the middle of what appears to be nothing.

See somebody talking on a phone? Stop and ask them who they are talking to
See somebody reading a book? Ask them if they want a study buddy
See somebody waiting at a bus stop? Ask them who they are going to meet on the bus today
Somebody riding a bike? wave them down and offer to drive
Sitting in a park? ask if they want to go for a walk

Just interrupt until your bones(brain) aches from the knowledge.

Want to know the opposite exercise you could do? Sit down in the middle of some crowded stairs studying! You'll meet many people who have no problem what so ever interrupting you.

 

[The_Lifter]

It doesn't matter if you DON'T know her from somewhere. If you can't think of anything to say, just say "Hey, don't I know you from the gym?" She'll probably say no, but you can still build a conversation around it.

 

[Fash]

"Hey, don't I know you from the gym?"

I think any approach that starts with "Hey, don't I know you from...." is cheesy and hardly ever works!

Dude, there were a million things you could have said to her. If you were both on the internet, and I am assuming they had internet access, I would have quickly brought up a page based on things that chicks dig!

Hell, I would have brought up a page on NLP!

You: excuse me, I need a female opinion on something, do you have a sec?
The reply will either be:
Her: NO! LEAVE ME ALONE!!!! (highly unlikely)
or:
Her: sure! what's up???

People love to help! it is in our human nature!

Then run one of the many routines on her, but start with....

You: I've been reading up on something called "interpersonal philosophy". Do you know what it is?

Her: ummm no, what is it?

You: well it is to do with asking people some very simple questions, yet getting to know a lot about them from the answers they give you.

This will get her intrigued. then run the cube, numbers test, or any of the set routines on her.

The trick is to come across as if you are NOT trying to pick her up, yet get her intrigued enough to number close at least! or invite her for coffee!

 

[mrRuckus]

Like I could have said, "What are you looking at"? But then its like I think that would have been to blatant (sp?) to say because then obviously she knows that I'm hitting on her. Becasuse she has done nothing to try and get my attention.
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Uh. What's wrong with her knowing you're hitting on her? Is she going to cry? Run away? You're just another of 100s of dudes that have tried to talk to her. She's used to it.