"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i am going to ask this girl to a movie this week, im going to

call tuesday
say "do you want to come to a movie with me friday or saturday?"
"give details, "7:00pm, wanna meet me there or do you need a ride?"

I was thiking of seeing simpsons movie, athough i know she wants to see rush hour 3 though its not out till augest 10th

now this seems to be a debated topic should i pay pay or not? also my friend is comming along and he might bring somone too. Cause i got her number by saying "do you wanna hang out somtime, ya know as friends" the friends part was kinda a nervous mistake on my part.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If it's a first date, don't see a movie (so cliche), you can't really talk to each other. If it's a first, don't make it a double date, have it be one to one, talk, and look into each other's eyes. A double date on the first can imply you don't have the confidence to take her one to one.

PICK HER UP! And pay for her, if you're asking her out, you should pay. Now, if she has high interest, maybe you'll be lucky enough to have her pick up the popcorn/sodas.

You're giving her too many options, pick her up or meet there? Saturday or Friday? Rush Hour or Simpsons? Dude, make a decision, tell her how it's going to be.

Be assertive, make moves, don't see a movie on the first, pay, pick her up, don't dobule date on the first, make decisions.
 

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Listen to Aussie and you said it yourself Rush hour doesn't come out for a few weeks. So go on a different date or two and then use your movie date to see Rush hour
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Do you wanna fvck her or hold her purse? :kick:

If you just wanna be friends with her why worry about paying or what to do. Why don't you just go shopping with her and hold her bags.:cheer:
 

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Please do me the favor: and just do it. Too many times I've tried to go the easy way, and cheat the system. It ****s you every time you get lazy/nervous. Grab your balls, listen to Rocky music, whatever. Pay for her ticket, feel her up, look at her, speak confidently. You can do it. I suggest you don't watch a movie. Go bowling. Go ice skating. Go to a carnival. Go play basketball in your neighbor's backyard. Go skinny dipping. Do an action date, it'll limit convo like you seem to have problems with, and make her feel you're unique. When you guys talk, she thinks you're one of the girls yet you get confused because you don't talk with your boys. When you guys do action stuff, she gets confused because all her girl friends do is talk. I got that from Pook (one of the few times I will quote him).


You can do a movie date, but it'll be 10 minutes of you guys interacting after the movie. It's also quite unoriginal, and can get you in big trouble if the movie sucks.
 

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hows a mall date sound? I called her tonight but she dident answer i got the machine, i dident leave a message and im going to call the day after tommorow again ( all as pook says to do).
 

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Bryce556 said:
hows a mall date sound? I called her tonight but she dident answer i got the machine, i dident leave a message and im going to call the day after tommorow again ( all as pook says to do).
Sounds better. Especially since you threw that friends thing in there. Heres a tip if you want to make it known you want to be more then friends your gonna have to take advantage of the date you get to apply Kino and hopefully a kiss close.

On a side note This may seem kinda stupid on my part but I didn't realize that kissing in the middle of the mall was that big of an issue. Some girls have a problem with it. Did this yesterday and the girl got offended. (I care nothing about this girl it was just a random day lol) But luckily not too offended b/c she asked if we could go out to my car instead. Which we did and continued from there.
 

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mpimpin said:
Sounds better. Especially since you threw that friends thing in there. Heres a tip if you want to make it known you want to be more then friends your gonna have to take advantage of the date you get to apply Kino and hopefully a kiss close.

On a side note This may seem kinda stupid on my part but I didn't realize that kissing in the middle of the mall was that big of an issue. Some girls have a problem with it. Did this yesterday and the girl got offended. (I care nothing about this girl it was just a random day lol) But luckily not too offended b/c she asked if we could go out to my car instead. Which we did and continued from there.
You're going to meet all kinds of girls. Kissing in the mall is no different than kissing in the bowling alley, and no different than kissing the school hallways. Some girls will have problems with being judged, others won't. That's where isolation comes from.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bryce556 said:
i am going to ask this girl to a movie this week, im going to

call tuesday
say "do you want to come to a movie with me friday or saturday?"
"give details, "7:00pm, wanna meet me there or do you need a ride?"

I was thiking of seeing simpsons movie, athough i know she wants to see rush hour 3 though its not out till augest 10th

now this seems to be a debated topic should i pay pay or not? also my friend is comming along and he might bring somone too. Cause i got her number by saying "do you wanna hang out somtime, ya know as friends" the friends part was kinda a nervous mistake on my part.
OMG !!!!!
RUSH HOUR 3?!?!?!?!?!?
WHEN?????

and yeah, aussie has got it down
 
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