"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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need an advice

Acq

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here is the deal..

I have been friends with a chick from a different country for two years now, we saw each other once when we spent three days together but nothing happened.. when she went back we kept calling each other at least once a week.
She has a boyfriend who she says does not care for her, "he is playing with me but Im afraid to lose him". Apparently they have sex once or twice a month.
They lived together for 3 months but her 29!!! year old boyfriend could not really afford to pay the rent and chose to buy a car instead. So he moved back to his parents house and now is seeing her once a week or so.

I visited their city this week for my job and spent 3 days with the girl. Unfortunately she dragged her boyfriend along on several occasions, asif she wanted to confront us to see what would happen.

I thought I was being used until the moment when I had to leave back to Belgium. We were sitting in the restorant when I stood up and said goodbye (a taxi was waiting outside), she said she would come with me outside to say farewell, and her boyfriend remained inside. Once outside she grabbed my hand for the first time and began to cry.. (can girls fake tears?) She said : u told me that I needed love and I believe I have found it.. I have been waiting for so long to tell u this; sorry I brought my BF along, he means nothing to me.. I was totally speechless, kissed her and left.

I like the girl but dont understand why she kept her boyfriend so close to us all the time and especially why she had to play that theater at the end.

Im back home now and tried calling her.. all my calls and messages remained unanswered.

could it be that she used me to make her loser drug addicted BF feel jelous ?

the girl is EXTREMELY hot and sexy, while Im just average
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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long distance rarely works out.........women say things in the moment. She wants her cake and eat it too. She is trying to spin two plates and is not very good.

THIS IS A PRIME EXAMPLE TO NEXT HER!!!!

U are not vested in her......so move on already!. Wuss like behavior often appears when one-i-tis of presumed beauty enters your life. Abscence does make the heart grow fonder.

nuff said...........carpa deum
 

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thanks..

Im not developing any oneitis with her, and never will, Im not a teenager anymore and my last oneitis was very painful.. I just tried to understand her behaviour which appeared strange to me.

I will "next" her if she ever contacts me again.

the girl is just plain stupid imo, she kept telling me stories about how she goes out and ****s random guys all the time since her BF does not appreciate her
 
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