"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Need Advise in New Dating Territory: youngins

logicallefty

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Hey guys,

I'm 32, divorced for 2.5 years. Sense then have been out with about 35 different girls, anywhere from age 22 - 40. I feel have a pretty good gage on the ins/outs/pros/cons of girls within these ranges now..

However, I am getting ready to go out with a little 18 year old hottie I met at the grocery store.. I need some advice on dating girls that young. What kinds of things have you noticed about girls this young compared to girls that are older? Pros/cons?? I completely never planned on dating anyone under 22, and I have turned other 18 year olds down only due to age alone. However, something in my gut is telling me that I need to go out with this one at least once; I just dont know what i am in for I guess..

Thanks much!!

Mike
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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skip2mylou781 said:
alcohol, immaturity, movies, shopping, dancing, $$ - those are their interests (extra emphasis on ALCOHOL)

this should be very very easy azz for you, but don't expect much else
Haha, true dat and don't forget most are also dedicated fangirls of some sucky bands...

They also have the attention span of monkeys on crack, so an "LTR" for them is like 2 weeks. Just strike while the iron is hot, but don't expect to be much more than their "kawk of the week." Get in, get off, get out! :D
 

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Bible_Belt said:
the attention span of monkeys on crack

Excellent metaphor.


So in other words, extra hard doses of mystery and not being available and all that fun stuff, right???
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So in other words, extra hard doses of mystery and not being available and all that fun stuff, right???
No, date and fvck her fiercely until she doesn't call you anymore, or flakes more than twice in a row.

Although young women are fukkin hot, they're pretty much throwaways until they hit their mid-twenties.
 

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don't even CONSIDER a LTR with this girl.

and you have 50/50 chance of banging her - your chances will go way up to about 99% if you're in a band, or are a DJ, a popular artist, something like that.

don't expect her to give two sh*ts about your inner qualities, your money, career, things like that. she's just havin fun and is probably dating multiple guys unless she's ugly.

don't expect deep conversations, and don't expect her to understand sh*t about the real world. you almost have to view this as if you're dating a child. i know that sounds sick, but it's the truth.

just try to hit it within a month or so, if it doesn't happen don't waste any more time.
 

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logicallefty said:
So in other words, extra hard doses of mystery and not being available and all that fun stuff, right???
i would say yes, especially to the being available thing. be a slight prick too with the neg hits, but not too harsh.

oh and one more thing i can't stress enough: be the boss. you decide where to go, what to do, etc. if she gets wayward and b*tchy, slap her down instantly. even if this means ruining the whole thing. b/c allowing it will instantly make her think you're a p*ssy and she'll bail.
 
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